You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there’s a lot less information – and opinion – on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here’s our list of ten things for women to avoid.

1 Expecting him to think like a woman

We’ve all seen loads of books with titles like “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don’t think the same way – and while we’re not going to get into why this happens, it’s important to remember that fact when you’re in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don’t see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can’t. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn’t feeling romantic and connected to his partner.

For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn’t need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that’s what women don’t understand.

They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don’t appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex – or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.

2 Not showing your sexual energy

Women who were brought up to be demure “good girls” (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex.
But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion – whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.

3 Being too gentle when you touch his penis

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you’ll see how much pressure he uses on his penis – especially as he nears orgasm. If you’re doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you’re doing right and what he’d like done differently. He’ll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.

4 Not experimenting with sex

The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour – or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that’s an exaggeration, but it isn’t much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it’s true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they’re not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time – about the things they see, what they’d like to do, how they’d like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it’s not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy. It doesn’t have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you’ve never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay – or even during the main event. Seduce him into a “quickie” by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you’d like to do to him later that day…..well, you get the idea – use your imagination!

5 Expecting him to read your mind

Yes, we know it’s difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don’t think like women. They don’t read clues, they don’t get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he’ll know exactly what he’s supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he’s doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.

6 Criticizing him

I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they’ve never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it – and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk – they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.
Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met – but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you’ve begun to understand that your man won’t know what you want unless you tell him. If you’re judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I’m afraid you aren’t likely to be very satisfied. And it won’t be his fault.

7 Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm

A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to “give” a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that’s how a lot of us were brought up – that a man somehow has to look after “his” woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex…..but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don’t make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.

8 Controlling him by withdrawing sex

One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don’t want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don’t feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)

9 Thinking he’ll feel the same way about your body that you do

It just isn’t so. Men don’t attach the judgments to women’s bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won’t matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won’t be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you’re completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he’ll never give it a second thought. It’s women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.

10 Not making up with sex after an argument

Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they’ve had an argument, but in fact many more don’t. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I’ve met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.

Even if you don’t feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that’s talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track – just go to bed together!
Rod Phillips

For men, reaching an orgasm is fairly simple whether they are with a partner or masturbating. While most men do have preferences about the types of positions and stimulation they enjoy, it seems that almost anything can push them over the edge if they are already in a state of arousal.

With women, it’s a bit different. In this article, we’re going to look at four reasons why it can be harder for women to orgasm than men.

1 Physical Reasons

The most obvious reason why women have a more difficult time reaching orgasms is physical. Their sexual anatomy is built differently than men’s and this has consequences when it comes to sexual pleasure.

For men, orgasm is relatively easy because the source of their sexual pleasure is the penis. The penis is not only completely visible but it can easily be stimulated. Additionally, a man’s arousal level is easier to recognize: an erect penis usually means he is ready for sexual intercourse and capable of reaching orgasm.

For women, it’s not so straight forward.

The main pleasure center for women is the clitoris which is approximately the same size as the penis but which is mostly concealed. The part of the clitoris which is accessible can not be easily stimulated by the penis through normal penetration. Even during masturbation, women must often try multiple methods and positions before finding the right combination to lead to an orgasm. Furthermore, signs of a woman’s arousal may not be as easy to spot unless her partner is looking for them specifically.

The consequences of these physical differences are that women have a more difficult road to travel when it comes to orgasms. It doesn’t mean they are any less capable of reaching an orgasm; it just means that it typically takes a little more effort and education.

2 Emotional Reasons

One thing I’ve heard women tell me about men is that they believe men can “get off” with anyone and at any time. This is generally in the form of a complaint because the women feel they are not able to reach orgasm that readily.

While it isn’t true that men can reach orgasm at the drop of a hat, men usually do not have as much difficulty with orgasms as women do. A man can meet a strange woman in a bar, take her to his car, have sex in the backseat without even learning her name, and can have an orgasm. Unless he is an exceptional lover, the woman he is with is not as likely to get the same payoff from the encounter.

The question is why is there such a difference.

The answer is fairly simple. Women are more likely to feel uncomfortable with their bodies and have a more difficult time discussing sexual issues, as a result they won’t be able to achieve an orgasm with just anyone.

It’s unfair to expect men to automatically know how to bring a woman to orgasm. Every woman’s body and mental state is different so men have to learn how to help each new partner reach orgasm in her own way. Doing that requires communication and openness: two things which require trust in a relationship.

When women do not entirely trust their partners, they are less likely to open up and discuss problems in the relationship, particularly problems in the bedroom. They sometimes fear that their partners will judge them or ridicule them because of what feels good to them. This discomfort may be elevated if they have been faking orgasms because they don’t want to hurt their partners by disclosing the truth.

Another trust-related issue is that many women hold back during sex because they are not completely comfortable with their partners or themselves. For example, if a woman thinks her thighs are too big, then she may be so fixated on what her partner thinks of them that she won’t free her mind enough to get pleasure from sex. If she feels pressured to have sex or is concerned about the fidelity of her partner, then she also may find it difficult to get into the proper mind set for an orgasm.

Remember that the most important sexual organ in the human body is the brain. If it’s not ready for sexual pleasure, then sexual pleasure will not happen.

Many people neglect use of sex toys considering them needless. However, sex toys, if used reasonably can considerably refresh intimate relationships.Sex toys vary loveplay, give new sensations and help to achieve enormous pleasure never experienced before.

Such sex toys as vibrators, dildos, love dolls and realistic vaginas relieve sufferings of those who temporarily do not have a sex partner. Use of adult toys also helps those who suffer from some disorders or physical defects and therefore are prevented from normal sex life.

Sex toys are recommended to spouses who from time to time have to be apart. They help such couples to experience erotic sensations and have orgasms being without each other, but the most important thing is that sex toys prevent married couples from adultery.

No husband or wife should mind his partner’s self-satisfaction. What is safer – adultery or self satisfaction with help of a vibrator or love doll or other sex life? Remember that sex toys help avoid sleeping around and many problems related to debauchery behavior, such as sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy.

A vibrator or a dildo (or both) is recommended to those couples where a woman has low libido and never achieves orgasm. These sex toys being in hands of a loving husband can give his wife great pleasure, especially if intercourse normally lasts no longer than for two or three minutes. This short amount of time is not enough for women to orgasm. In this case a Sex toys used during foreplay will be of great help. Vibrators and dildos are also used after intercourse if male partner ejaculated before his partner’s orgasm.

Vibrators are often used by couples where a husband is much older than his wife. It is known that aged men lack libido and cannot satisfy their young wives’ need for frequent sex life.

Sometimes spouses of the same age are not satisfied with their sex life. It is quite normal that different people have different level of libido. But what is to be done if partners love each other and the only problem which prevents them from being happy is disparity in libido? No divorce! There is a way out: a partner whose libido is higher can use a sex toys to satisfy the need for sex when another partner is not disposed to making love. Do you think that a husband or a wife had better look for satisfaction with someone else? Or torture his or her spouse by demanding frequent sex contacts? Of course, this is a bad idea. Use of sex toys is much better and safer.

Everything said above does not mean that devices designed for erotic stimulation and satisfaction can completely replace intimate relationships. Do not use them instead of having sex with your partner! Remember that sex toys can give only physical pleasure, but never emotional one!

Life is love. Love and be loved!

Sex addiction is an illness that is experienced worldwide by men and women from different backgrounds and cultures. When a person is a sex addict, they suffer from a disease which is incurable, progressive and capable of destroying the lives of not only the sufferer but of their families as well.

Sex addiction can be managed with a recovery program and therapy but whilst in the grips of this addiction, sufferers cannot escape their obsessive and compulsive behavior. Often sex addiction is experienced with other addictive behaviors such as drug use and eating disorders. They are all behaviors of the same disease of addiction.

Similar to other addictions such as drug addiction and alcohol addiction, sex addiction is based on obsessive and compulsive needs. The behavior of a sex addict can include repeated empty affairs, compulsive masturbation, frequent use of prostitutes and other sex services and in extreme cases can even progress to exhibitionism, voyeurism, child molestation and rape.

Sex addicts however are not bad people. Their condition is not a moral failing: It is a spiritual unrest.

Why is Sex Addiction So Destructive?
In some Twelve Step fellowship support groups, bottom line behavior is identified. Bottom line behavior is a term used to define the specific sex addict’s behaviors which they act out on.

Most sex addicts experience intrigue which is the mental preoccupation with sexual acts. Objectifying people, constant obsession with sexual acts, flirting and generally spending much time with the preoccupation of sex is the mental state of a sex addict. These obsessions are then followed by the compulsive acting out on sexual behaviors.

Sex addiction is progressive. It may begin with compulsive masturbation and an affinity for pornography which then develops into a serious problem involving the use of prostitutes, money troubles, families being broken up and unemployment, further to which suicide can be a consequence.

When sex addiction has progressed to a severe level, the sex addict is unable to resist the impulse to act out on their sexual behaviors. They become more involved with the behaviors for longer periods of time, with greater intensity and violence to have the desired effect, resulting in their responsibilities being neglected. Without being able to fulfill their obsession and act out on the behavior, they become irritable, restless and angry. Despite the desire to abstain and stop the sexual compulsiveness because their lives are beginning to crumble, they are unable to do so. They are powerless over their sexual addiction and their lives begin to become completely unmanageable.

Treatment
Sex addiction is treatable, but incurable. Yet with therapy, abstinence from the disordered sexual behaviors and maintaining a program of recovery on a daily basis, a sex addict can regain a normal life again. Inpatient treatment in a counseling center can be extremely beneficial to a sex addict seeking help for their problem. Many sex addicts will be in a state of denial about their problem but once they have admitted that they have a problem, they can begin the healing recovery process.

Inpatient treatment will usually provide group therapy and individual therapy which have been found to be the most successful methods of dealing with sex addiction. Treatment facilities are a safe place for sex addicts to recover where they can process their condition with experienced and understanding people. They need never be alone in their struggle again.

Whilst in a rehabilitation center, a sex addict will need to begin working a daily program of recovery, such as the Twelve Steps. There are fellowships which are devoted to helping sex addicts receive support and help in their behavior. For a sex addict to be abstinent from the behavior does not mean that they must stay celibate for the rest of their life – it is a normal human behavior to engage in sexual acts, just not ones which begin to destroy their lives and keep them in a terrible cycle of shame and self loathing. A sex addict who turns to celibacy as a way of dealing with the problem is not addressing the root cause – similar to a dry drunk.

With proper treatment and therapy, coupled with a program of recovery, a sex addict can begin to lead a happy and normal life again. A recovery program will keep a sex addict aware of their behaviors and dangerous situations which may lead to relapse and will teach them tools to cope with daily life.

Check out the movie I am a sex addict.  It is an autobiographical comedy about a recovering sex addict, about his obsession with prostitutes, and how that affected his relationships and his life altogether.  I have seen it, definitely an interesting perspective.

In the best sexual positions series we have discussed the best sexual positions for most situations that can arise.

One special situation is for spontaneous sex, and this is something that is totally unpredictable, and thus, knowing the best sexual position in advance can make the magic of a spontaneous sexual encounter last in your memory forever.

Spontaneous Sexual Encounters

Often portrayed in films and written about in books, the spontaneous sexual encounter is more or less another name for the Americanized word, “quickie“.

This will be sex in the office, or out of doors, in an elevator, or even an airplane.

The quickie will give you from 1 to 5 minutes maximum, and often there will be a space problem. The other problem is clothing, and for the spontaneous encounter, you will need to keep as much of your clothing on as possible, as in spontaneous sexual encounters, there is always the risk of being ?caught in the act?.

The Best Sexual Position for Spontaneous Sexual Encounters

The very best is called the standing spoons. Assuming the encounter begins by kissing, once the couple have passed the moment of decision (to or not to), then the man must turn the woman around so she has to back to the man.

The clothes on the upper part of the body are not required to be removed (regardless of how it is done in films), and concentrate on getting the lower clothes to the knees at least or better the ankles. The man then embraces the woman with one arm, and uses the other to position himself.

The woman does the same. One arm is used to hold the man, usually around his neck, but holding her arm back over her own head, and the other is used to facilitate penetration.

Both the man and woman bend their knees slightly, and come together very closely, like two spoons resting together. As penetration is made the couple move in unison with push and recoil.

This is the action, and as entry was made from the rear, both the g-spot and the clitoris are stimulated.

It is very much like a dance, and indeed the movements from new club dancing should be used if the couple understands how to do it.

The very term spontaneous often means that there is not enough time to prepare for all eventualities.

That means, that use of a condom may not be possible.

Therefore, while enjoying the spontaneity of the event, the man and woman must think where the man is going to finish. If inside the woman, then there is no problem, if outside (a term known as coitus interruptus ) the man should terminate in his own free hand, as not to cause a mess.

Remember time is of the essence here, and a quick dressing after the session will not be possible if the man is careless about where he deposits his sperm.

Finishing Up

There are other sexual positions possible for spontaneous sexual encounters, but the standing spoons is by far the best from the standpoint of mutual satisfaction, speed to penetrate, react and completion, and should it be interrupted or discovered, it is the fastest position to recover one’s equipoise.

EXT. WILLOW GLADE

He puts his face close to hers. She rubs her cheek against his. He kisses her on the mouth. They explore each other.

Then she pulls back, eyes sparkling.

NEYTIRI
Kissing is very good. But we have something better.

She pulls him down until they are kneeling, facing each other on the faintly glowing moss. Neytiri takes the end of her queue and raises it. Jake does the same, with trembling anticipation. The tendrils at the ends move with a life of their own, straining to be joined.

MACRO SHOT — The tendrils INTERTWINE with gentle undulations.

JAKE rocks with the direct contact between his nervous system and hers. The ultimate intimacy.

They come together into a kiss and sink down on the bed of moss, and ripples of light spread out around them.

THE WILLOWS sway, without wind, and the night is alive with pulsing energy as we DISSOLVE TO —

LATER. She is collapsed across his chest. Spent. He strokes her face tenderly.

JAKE
Neytiri, you know my real body is far away, sleeping.

She raises up, placing her fingertips to his chest —

NEYTIRI
This body is real.
(she touches his forehead)
This spirit is real.

NEYTIRI
When I was first your teacher, I hated all Sky People. But you have also taught me.
(whispering)
Spirit is all that matters.She lays her head down, against his chest, listening to his heartbeat.

NEYTIRI
I am with you now, Jake. We are mated for life.

JAKE
We are?

NEYTIRI
Yes. It is our way.
(innocently)
Oh. I forgot to tell?

He rouses up, making her look at him.

JAKE
Really, we are?

NEYTIRI
We are.

JAKE
It’s cool. I’m there.

He lays his head down, and her arms enfold him, sheltering him as he sleeps.

As you gaze up into the sky and thing about the lack of gravity in outer space you wonder how exactly would one go about have sex in space?  At zero gravity you have nothing to push off of so if you were to try and reach out and grab someone you would just bounce off of each other.  In order to solve this problem Vanna Bonta, a novelist, post, and film actress invented the suit.  She is the author of the sci-fi movie the Beastmaster so you can imagine why the suit is so “sci fi.”  On a side note supposedly the first sexual experience has already occurred in space on the  STS-47 mission, on which married astronauts Mark C. Lee and Jan Davis flew (they snuck off during preparation for the launch and got married notifying NASA just weeks before launch, NASA does not allow couples to fly together anymore), this is just speculation of course.  But how awesome would that be, to be able to say that you were the first human couple to ever get it on in space, that is just cool!

OK so I found this on another website. So I cannot vouch for it’s validity.  But it seems real to me.  I mean back in the day everything was a lot cheaper (the reverse of inflation).  But honestly they are so blatant about their services, I guess this is the way it would be if we did not have all of these laws in place to prevent prostitution from happening here in the states.  I have never been to a country where they do allow it, I am curious if you would find something of this nature in those places.  If  you live in Amsterdam or anywhere where prostitution is legal I would love for you to email me a copy of the services from one of your whorehouses for comparison.  That would definitely be interesting to see.  My email is: missorgy[at]gmail.com. 

Sex toys are a sure way to add a little spark to any romantic relationship. However, most of them were designed primarily for solo use. Often, the only way to involve your partner is to let him or her watch, or maybe help. But if you want a sex toy that is truly made for sharing, try a vibrating erection ring. Made to be enjoyed by both parties simultaneously, vibrating erection ring is the perfect couple’s sex toy.

For males, an erection ring is meant to restrict the flow of blood away from the erect penis and trap the blood in the shaft. This not only creates a pleasurable feeling of tightness and pressure, but gives him a firmer erection that will last a longer period of time.

That alone is an asset to both parties; however, the advantages of this amazing sex toy go further. There is a vibrating bullet for added extra clitoral stimulation for the woman, so it’s a true win-win situation for everyone involved.

Vibrating erection rings come in a variety of materials, like Cyberskin to give a soft, realistic feel; silicone that is hypoallergenic and easy to clean; hard and soft jelly providing different levels of flexibility and softness.

There are a number of other features to take into consideration when choosing the sex toy.

• For continuous, hands-free vibration go for a ring with an internal vibrating bullet. There is an alternative of a removable bullet that can be used on other body parts.

• For even more staying power, try a sex toy that features a double ring. Double rings have two straps: one that goes around the base of the penis and another that goes around the scrotum. In fact, such a sex toy combines two erection rings in one!

• There are choices for multi-speed erection rings or something more, like multiple levels of pulsation and vibration.

• You can also choose between pin-point vibrations, or complete clitoral coverage.

To get the most out of your new sex toy, be sure to keep the following tips in mind:

• Always use an adequate amount of lubrication with any sex toy it can make intercourse a lot more pleasurable, too. In case with vibrating erection rings, lube makes the ring easier to put on and take off and it makes the sex better as well!

• When using a condom with your erection ring, put the condom on first and then the ring second. Do not try to wear your condom over the erection ring.

• Hard jelly rings don’t generally stretch much; therefore they should be put on before you are fully erect. Many people find they are worth it, though, because the harder materials transmit vibrations better than soft jelly.

• If your sex toy is made of a soft and flexible material, you can put on your erection ring either before or after you are erect, even in cases where the opening looks quite small. These sex toys are made to stretch and are meant to fit fairly snugly.

• For more intense vibrations for the woman, try a female-dominant position. This will allow her to use her own body weight to control how hard the vibrator pushes against her.

• If the man finds that the ring makes it difficult to ejaculate, he might want to remove it prior to orgasm.

• If the sex toy becomes too snug, remove it immediately, and never leave it on for more than a half-hour at a time.

• In the rare case you might find it difficult to remove your ring. Apply ice or cold water to the penis to help reduce your erection.

• When removing the ring, take it slow otherwise your sex toy might accidentally take some pubic hairs with it.

All the given information shouldn’t intimidate you, though vibrating erection rings are absolutely amazing yet simple sex toys! And considering how much fun they are to share, every couple should have one in their bedside table.

This article is about your first time having sex with a girl……Here are some tips for your first female bisexual experience.

There’s an awful lot wrapped up in your first lesbian sexual encounter. Being nervous is normal. It might be your first time having sex or your first time having sex with another woman. There’s much cultural hype about your first time or losing your virginity. You never forget your first time. Here’s a few tips to get you through your first time lesbian sexual experience.

1. Know your own body. Before you can turn someone else on, it’s good to know what makes you hot. Masturbation is good. Spend some one-on-one time with yourself. When you touch yourself and find the places which feel pleasurable, you’ll know where to touch her.And more importantly, how to convey to her what turns you on.

   

2. I suggest you go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sexual experience. Alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you stay sober.
3. Fantasize heavily. This all begins with a hot fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are your thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed, strip you naked and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool and start kissing all over? You must imagine it before you can do it.
4. Leave all your sex toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with them. Let your first time be a simple and natural flesh on flesh love.
5. Relax. Take your sweet time. Touch her all over. Don’t go straight for her crotch. Undress her very slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her and kiss her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck and back. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss and lick behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Become naked and lay your body on top of hers. Grind one-another, There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.When you do get down to her crouch area, Slowly lick up her thighs and kiss her vulva. Spread her legs and open her lips with your fingers. Take a look. Tell her how beautiful she looks.

   
   Use your tongue. Your whole tongue. Flatten it out. Use just the tip. Lick her like an ice cream cone. Flick it like a butterfly wing. Use gentle strokes. As her excitement builds, add more pressure. Focus more on the area around her clit.

6. Communicate. Ask her what she desires. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good ans sensual. Tell her where you like to be touched. Communication is a very important key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you really like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.
7. Have a realistic expectation. Your very first time with a girl should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is all about. Orgasm may or may not occur the first time. It’s okay. The important point is to become physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.

Girl on Girl sex can be a fascinating experience, one which you will probably one to do over and over again. I know I have !!