Sex addiction is an illness that is experienced worldwide by men and women from different backgrounds and cultures. When a person is a sex addict, they suffer from a disease which is incurable, progressive and capable of destroying the lives of not only the sufferer but of their families as well.

Sex addiction can be managed with a recovery program and therapy but whilst in the grips of this addiction, sufferers cannot escape their obsessive and compulsive behavior. Often sex addiction is experienced with other addictive behaviors such as drug use and eating disorders. They are all behaviors of the same disease of addiction.

Similar to other addictions such as drug addiction and alcohol addiction, sex addiction is based on obsessive and compulsive needs. The behavior of a sex addict can include repeated empty affairs, compulsive masturbation, frequent use of prostitutes and other sex services and in extreme cases can even progress to exhibitionism, voyeurism, child molestation and rape.

Sex addicts however are not bad people. Their condition is not a moral failing: It is a spiritual unrest.

Why is Sex Addiction So Destructive?
In some Twelve Step fellowship support groups, bottom line behavior is identified. Bottom line behavior is a term used to define the specific sex addict’s behaviors which they act out on.

Most sex addicts experience intrigue which is the mental preoccupation with sexual acts. Objectifying people, constant obsession with sexual acts, flirting and generally spending much time with the preoccupation of sex is the mental state of a sex addict. These obsessions are then followed by the compulsive acting out on sexual behaviors.

Sex addiction is progressive. It may begin with compulsive masturbation and an affinity for pornography which then develops into a serious problem involving the use of prostitutes, money troubles, families being broken up and unemployment, further to which suicide can be a consequence.

When sex addiction has progressed to a severe level, the sex addict is unable to resist the impulse to act out on their sexual behaviors. They become more involved with the behaviors for longer periods of time, with greater intensity and violence to have the desired effect, resulting in their responsibilities being neglected. Without being able to fulfill their obsession and act out on the behavior, they become irritable, restless and angry. Despite the desire to abstain and stop the sexual compulsiveness because their lives are beginning to crumble, they are unable to do so. They are powerless over their sexual addiction and their lives begin to become completely unmanageable.

Treatment
Sex addiction is treatable, but incurable. Yet with therapy, abstinence from the disordered sexual behaviors and maintaining a program of recovery on a daily basis, a sex addict can regain a normal life again. Inpatient treatment in a counseling center can be extremely beneficial to a sex addict seeking help for their problem. Many sex addicts will be in a state of denial about their problem but once they have admitted that they have a problem, they can begin the healing recovery process.

Inpatient treatment will usually provide group therapy and individual therapy which have been found to be the most successful methods of dealing with sex addiction. Treatment facilities are a safe place for sex addicts to recover where they can process their condition with experienced and understanding people. They need never be alone in their struggle again.

Whilst in a rehabilitation center, a sex addict will need to begin working a daily program of recovery, such as the Twelve Steps. There are fellowships which are devoted to helping sex addicts receive support and help in their behavior. For a sex addict to be abstinent from the behavior does not mean that they must stay celibate for the rest of their life – it is a normal human behavior to engage in sexual acts, just not ones which begin to destroy their lives and keep them in a terrible cycle of shame and self loathing. A sex addict who turns to celibacy as a way of dealing with the problem is not addressing the root cause – similar to a dry drunk.

With proper treatment and therapy, coupled with a program of recovery, a sex addict can begin to lead a happy and normal life again. A recovery program will keep a sex addict aware of their behaviors and dangerous situations which may lead to relapse and will teach them tools to cope with daily life.

Check out the movie I am a sex addict.  It is an autobiographical comedy about a recovering sex addict, about his obsession with prostitutes, and how that affected his relationships and his life altogether.  I have seen it, definitely an interesting perspective.

EXT. WILLOW GLADE

He puts his face close to hers. She rubs her cheek against his. He kisses her on the mouth. They explore each other.

Then she pulls back, eyes sparkling.

NEYTIRI
Kissing is very good. But we have something better.

She pulls him down until they are kneeling, facing each other on the faintly glowing moss. Neytiri takes the end of her queue and raises it. Jake does the same, with trembling anticipation. The tendrils at the ends move with a life of their own, straining to be joined.

MACRO SHOT — The tendrils INTERTWINE with gentle undulations.

JAKE rocks with the direct contact between his nervous system and hers. The ultimate intimacy.

They come together into a kiss and sink down on the bed of moss, and ripples of light spread out around them.

THE WILLOWS sway, without wind, and the night is alive with pulsing energy as we DISSOLVE TO —

LATER. She is collapsed across his chest. Spent. He strokes her face tenderly.

JAKE
Neytiri, you know my real body is far away, sleeping.

She raises up, placing her fingertips to his chest —

NEYTIRI
This body is real.
(she touches his forehead)
This spirit is real.

NEYTIRI
When I was first your teacher, I hated all Sky People. But you have also taught me.
(whispering)
Spirit is all that matters.She lays her head down, against his chest, listening to his heartbeat.

NEYTIRI
I am with you now, Jake. We are mated for life.

JAKE
We are?

NEYTIRI
Yes. It is our way.
(innocently)
Oh. I forgot to tell?

He rouses up, making her look at him.

JAKE
Really, we are?

NEYTIRI
We are.

JAKE
It’s cool. I’m there.

He lays his head down, and her arms enfold him, sheltering him as he sleeps.

As you gaze up into the sky and thing about the lack of gravity in outer space you wonder how exactly would one go about have sex in space?  At zero gravity you have nothing to push off of so if you were to try and reach out and grab someone you would just bounce off of each other.  In order to solve this problem Vanna Bonta, a novelist, post, and film actress invented the suit.  She is the author of the sci-fi movie the Beastmaster so you can imagine why the suit is so “sci fi.”  On a side note supposedly the first sexual experience has already occurred in space on the  STS-47 mission, on which married astronauts Mark C. Lee and Jan Davis flew (they snuck off during preparation for the launch and got married notifying NASA just weeks before launch, NASA does not allow couples to fly together anymore), this is just speculation of course.  But how awesome would that be, to be able to say that you were the first human couple to ever get it on in space, that is just cool!

OK so I found this on another website. So I cannot vouch for it’s validity.  But it seems real to me.  I mean back in the day everything was a lot cheaper (the reverse of inflation).  But honestly they are so blatant about their services, I guess this is the way it would be if we did not have all of these laws in place to prevent prostitution from happening here in the states.  I have never been to a country where they do allow it, I am curious if you would find something of this nature in those places.  If  you live in Amsterdam or anywhere where prostitution is legal I would love for you to email me a copy of the services from one of your whorehouses for comparison.  That would definitely be interesting to see.  My email is: missorgy[at]gmail.com. 

When it comes to lingerie, it makes women feel sexy and empowered as well as highly confident regardless of when or how it is worn. A good collection of lingerie should be part of every woman’s wardrobe, not just because of what it does for confidence levels but also as a means of upping the wow factor where the man in your life is concerned. So what do men think of lingerie and do they prefer sexy lingerie over other aspects such as killer heels?

Corsets, basques and babydolls as well as stockings are just a handle of examples of the lingerie that is available at this online store? wildandsexy.co.uk . For men, all of these and more make women sexier and more seductive and all men have their favorites but they all run along the same sort of theme. See-through, revealing and lacy; men love flattering sexy and risky lingerie on a woman, but on top of this it is a well known fact that what men love more than just lingerie is lingerie teamed with high heeled shoes and I have to agree this really does pull the look together perfectly, but what is it about high heeled shoes that men can’t get enough of?

To men, a killer heel contracts the curves of a woman to make them have a more pronounced shape; it also means that a woman has to take smaller strides, which will enhance the swaying motion of the hips. A heel also emphasizes a range of fantasies such as sexy school teacher or naughty secretary. It make a woman more feminine and emphasizes one of the favorite female features to a man; the legs. When you then team high heels with lingerie you are on a definite winner to impress and seduce your man, so what are the best pieces of lingerie to do this? Let’s start with the simple team of bras, G-strings and stockings. To many women this may seem simple, especially if it is something that is worn most days but to men, this doesn’t reveal too much but still lets them have a sneak peak; it is teasing and flattering all at the same time and if you use the colors white, red and black then this makes it even better.

A favorite for men however has to be a corset or basque. I very much doubt that there is a man out there who wouldn’t want to see a woman wearing this. Not only does it slim the body and flatten the silhouette but it also boosts the cleavage, all of which tick the right boxes where men are concerned. And when teamed with a g-string and a pair of thigh high stockings you are sure to have your man at his knees.

When looking at all the various aspects that are sure to seduce a man, each of them work on their own but think about it, when you team a corset with stocking and a pair of heels, how much more of an impact are you going to make? Basically instead of questioning what men like more, why not treat your man to a bit of everything and visit this lingerie store.

Sex with someone you love is the best prescription for good health. It keeps you young, keeps your sexual organs in good working order, and it boosts your self-confidence. Nothing else stimulates all the senses quite like sex. It just puts a glow on you that no other activity does.? – Dr. Ava Cadell.

I believe that regularly occurring and frequent sex will produce certain emotional and physical health benefits. It?s long been established that there are myriad of health benefits related to sexual activity. This awareness has been recorded in our culture for centuries in the form of old wives tales such as Use it, or lose it.  Just as if you don’t use your common household appliances regularly, they’ll also become rusty and break down.

A consistently active sex life can be directly beneficial for the cardiovascular system, particularly for men. The increase in heart rate is directly beneficial to the circulation, and can reduce the likelihood of a heart attack. The British Medical Journal published an article in 1997 that reported that men who had the highest number of orgasms had a better quality of life and lived the longest.

Sexual activity can also regulate and exercise the respiratory organs. In short, that heavy breathing with someone you love is healthy.   Sex benefits neck and back muscles which increases blood flow to the brain and can alleviate certain types of headache so, the next time your partner says, I’ve got a headache, you can say, Good, let’s make love and get rid of it.

In the post-coital phase of sex, the relaxation of muscles can even alleviate insomnia. The release of tension can lead to a deeper, quicker sleep.Believe it or not, sex can work as a laxative, toning and controlling the lower abdominal muscles.

Sex as pain medication may sound far fetched, but consider this: Just before the point of no return, high levels of oxytocin flood the body and release endorphins that relieve pain. Sexual activity can also help to relieve menstrual cramps by providing a natural decongestion.

No more flu or pesky colds is a good reason to have sex at least once or twice a week. That?s what research showed at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania. They discovered that people who had regular sex had 30% higher levels of immunoglobulin A, an antibody which boosts the immune system.

If you think you’re overweight, there’s no better way to lose it than with increased sexual activity. It not only burns calories, but can also help turn fat into muscle more quickly than any other forms of exercise.  Sex will burn a significant amount of calories but over eating will still cause weight gain. The most concise research shows that the act of sexual intercourse burns of about 200 calories, which is equal to running on a treadmill for half an hour.

Having sex keeps your organs healthy. Just as exercising the other muscles of your body contributes to your well being, sexual activity contributes to the flow of blood to your organs and helps to keep everything in good working condition from top to bottom.

There are also many wonderful psychological benefits. Sexual activity releases pleasure endorphins from the brain, which flood the body and literally de-stress it.

Sex can be an effective anti-depressant because it releases feel-good neurotransmitters from the brain called Dopamine. The physical and emotional aspect of sex can work together in improving self-esteem and adds to a sense of confidence.

Sex can help to get those creative juices flowing. Since sexual fulfillment also involves your brain, it can improve a variety of mental functions, including your concentration. Sex can make the mind more active and an imaginative approach to sex can not only spice up your love life, but it can create that wonderful feeling of sexual anticipation.

One of the most important psychological benefits of an active sex life is that it can reduce anxiety. The sedative effect of sexual activity is conducive to fighting the effects of daily tension. The emotional fulfillment that comes from an intimate sexual encounter results in the relaxation of your muscles in your brain.

Better sex life can improve your sense of smell because after lovemaking, prolactin, a hormone, flows to the brain and develops new neurons in the olfactory bulb, which is the brain’s smell center.The unique sense of intimate connection with the person you love cannot be duplicated by any other activity. Nothing else stimulates all the senses quite like sex.

There has been an enormous amount of research in the field of psychology focusing on the relationship between sexuality and mental health. Recent medical discoveries by the American Heart Association have confirmed the physical benefits of an active sex life. The American Association of Urologists and significant medical school studies at the University of California and Indiana, just to name two, have documented studies about the health aspects of an active sex life. Forbes magazine did a cover story on why sex is good for your health in 2003 with statistics from major universities and medical journals.

Let?s face it, sex is really an integral part of a healthy life and can help you emotionally, psychologically, and physically. In summation, sex is good for you health in terms of the cardiovascular system, respiratory system, menstrual cramps, acts as a laxative, burns calories, keeps your organs healthy, acts as an anti-depressant, a mild sedative, can stimulate creativity, concentration, reduce stress, and it feels great!

LOL – this is pretty awesome, I had to post!!!  Watch out people!

SEX EQUALITY: SEX DISCRIMINATION RELATED VICTIMIZATION IN EMPLOYMENT

(Based on author?s site www.geocities.com/sxvct)

Sex equality victimization in employment need not involve sexual advances, gender prejudice -it is itself unlawful.

Employees who suffer sex equality victimization without sex discrimination or sexual harassment also have rights ~this while mostly female victimization is different than sexual discrimination or illegal sexual advances, but equally unlawful under equal rights and sex equality laws.

Sex equality victimization is the specific kind of unlawful employer retaliation which is specifically to do with but independent of sex discrimination or sexual harassment -it has its own different rules, regulations, legal procedures.

Compensation awardable for sex equality victimization in workplaces relates to equal rights and can be limitless if ‘injury to feelings’ is caused by sex equality victimization in employment -if about sexual prejudice in the workplace.

Sex equality victimization has its own special legal definition and is called so because it is gender victimization based on sex equality laws and often arises in employment when one in good faith enquires about, e.g., maternity or paternity leave entitlement and in sexism is subjected to victimization, or if one, mistaken though one may be, honestly believing oneself subjected to unlawful discrimination or unwelcome sexual advances, complains of sexual harassment and suffers victimization (or, if a man or girl or work woman upon being suspected that would, could, or might, complain of a sex equality matter [e.g. illegal prejudice because of marital status or sexual orientation] is caused a detriment) -not necessarily a sexist detriment unlawful under gender equality laws or in terms of a woman’s rights or of women’s equality but any kind of detriment that is because of a sexual discrimination matter.

Simply put, victimization is this, in employment law (under the Sex Discrimination Act 1975 ss. 4(1)&(2))..: If the employer knew, or suspected? that the employee alleged, or intended to allege? that the employer, or another employee, did something wrong under the Sex Discrimination or a related Act? and? if the employer can not show the allegation to be, both, untrue and not in good faith… and… if it can be seen that as a result of that… by the standards of reasonable employers… one was treated less favourably than any other employee was, or would be, treated… that is unlawful victimisation.

This unlawful victimization under the sex equality legislation applies, just as in the case of unwanted sex advances to a man or women by opposite or same sex or sexual prejudice or bullying, also in the provision goods or services and sex victimization is actionable then too; but, sex prejudice or sexual abuse based victimization is mostly a feminine issue and mostly sex victimization takes place in employment against girls or women employees -although not only female employees but also male persons may complain of sex equality victimization.

In sexual victimization complaints arising out of workplace harassment or gender prejudice covered by a sex equality law, if victimization is or involves dismissal, the qualifying period (the requirement that one must have been employed for at least a year to be entitled to complain under employment legislation -unless for breach of contract) does not apply -an equal rights demand is a protected act and one may complain of gender victimization regardless of one’s length of employment.

Such victimization is covered also by the Code of Practice of ACAS (Advisory Conciliation and Arbitration Service) who arbitrate also on sex equality and victimization claims.

The EOC (Equal Opportunities Commission) must promote equal rights policies -including sexism toward women workers and working women’s rights and victimization of woman employees ~it requires employers to have a written EOP (Equal Opportunities policy) document on equality principles -including on sex equality and covering unlawful prejudice victimization of work women.

Sex equality legislation requires the EOC also to provide advice to and assistance in respect of complaints to Industrial Tribunals of victimisation (this, unless assistance is applied for legal representation, often is in the form of advice and drawing up of the sex equality Questionnaire ~answers to this can be used in evidence that there had been e.g. an illegal discrimination complaint -it entitles inference about the alleged victimization to be drawn from failure to respond or if answers are vague or ambiguous).

When complaining of sex equality related victimization, it is important to remember the following:-

A. Complaints of equal rights victimization to Employment Tribunals must be made within three months of the date on which the sex equality victimisation took place, or of when the sex equality victimization came to one’s notice -this does not include that day, but does include weekends and most public holidays and day of receipt of the victimization complaint by the Employment Tribunal local to the employer ~the last day ends at midnight.

B. Same applies about the sex victimization Questionnaire -but if served after the victimization claim is lodged it is 21 days ~even if the employer is legally represented, if a limited company, it should be served on it’s Company Secretary at its registered address.

C. If a postal victimization claim is received out of time, one must show that at least 2 days were allowed for postal delivery -or the victimization claim may be rejected.

In complaints of sex-equality victimization it is wise to bear in mind precedent which may affect victimization claims:-

1. Victimization has to be in respect of the employment relationship; a sexual prejudice or sexual abuse based victimization complaint does not qualify if it is by the employer but not in the course of or in respect of the employment itself -i.e. if the employer in an unrelated meeting or dealing e.g. at a wedding reception ridicules the employee that is not covered by employment rights: Walters -v- Metropolitan Police Commissioner, 1997, CA.

2. In sex equality victimization complaints, the onus of proof is on the complainant ~although it may easily move to employer: Humphreys -v- Board of St. Georges 1978, EAT -the employer must justify subjecting to a proven detriment considered victimization: National Vulcan Eng. Ins. -v- Wade, 1977 EAT, and a broad approach is relevant in victimization cases: Copper Pass -v- Lawton 1976, EAT.

3. Employment legislation requires reference at the first instance to ACAS with a view to possible settlement without resort to an Employment Tribunal, and so it is also in gender prejudice or sex harassment based victimization ~also, if victimization was dismissal, the victim must ask the employer to re-consider and respond within 28 days -a general principle in employment right being that additional facts must be considered by the employer: Wells -v- Derwent Plastics Ltd. 1978 EAT, any new facts even after dismissal: Christie -v- Rolls Royce Ltd. 1971 EAT, if the employer erred it must be corrected: Sandhu v Dept Science & Education 1973 EAT, especially if there had been no indication of dismissal: Williamson -v- Alcan (UK) Ltd. 1978 EAT.

4. If sex equality victimization is short of dismissal comparisons with others may be necessary -e.g. if one’s workload has been increased or promotion has been denied by victimization ~comparison is the basis of most equal rights cases, e.g., London Regional Transport 1998 CA -custom & practice can also be considered Wallace -v- E. J. Fry Ltd. 1979 NIRC.

5. In victimization complaints it matters not whether the employer was consciously or unconsciously victimizing nor what was the employer’s motive or intention -if there has been less favourable treatment on grounds of gender that suffices: Reg. -v- Birmingham CC ex-parte EOC 1989, HL, and, James -v- Eastleigh BC 1990, HL.

6. Victimization cases may involve a Pre-Hearing Review to decide whether there is a reasonable prospect of success -this is different than a full merits hearing of the victimization complaint, and the onus here to discharge is not proving the sex equality victimization case, but that the employer’s stated reason is capable of not being the reason, and that the reason is capable of being victimization, qualifying the sex equality victimization complaint for a full merits hearing.

7. If sex equality victimization is dismissal and it proceeds to a full hearing, once the sex equality victimization complainant gives evidence, it is then for the employer to counter that evidence and normally the Employment Tribunals then have regard to the reason stated by the employer in determining if the sex equality victimization was the reason or the main reason for the dismissal.

There is no automatic entitlement to written reasons for the decisions of Employment Tribunals and appeals can not be made without written reasons -one must specifically ask for written reasons within 14 days of the victimization hearing ~appeals in sex equality victimization cases lie to the EAT (Employment Appeal Tribunal).

Laws change -the above are brief guidelines.

The author has a website at: www.geocities.com/eoa_uk

SEX EDUCATION AMONG CHILDREN

The reason we boast sometimes on Indian culture, is because it has rich values, values that are of high morale and unique to the world. Values are something on which our life thrives. We find organizations thriving on values, families stand united on its values, and the very humanity stands on human values. Without values, an individual would have no identity. We deliver value when we execute pride in holding our national symbols. We deliver value when we show respect to our elders. We owe value when we look at each female with the respect as high as that for a mother. And it is these values, that brings in us courage to hold against the odds. It is these values that help us to go ahead in life along with our family, with our friends, with our colleagues, with the society and with the nation all together. No doubt, values are as important as our life itself.

One of these great Indian values is about educating our children to hold against the most devastating erotic feelings towards opposite gender, the so called ?Sex?. Sex is a powerful temptation and it requires very strong values to hold upon it. However, it is now days challenged by educated section of society, particularly the followers of western culture, in the name of exposing the mystery to the curious and immature child.

The conclusion made by these literates is that it is a prevention methodology, which would make the next generation safe from the perils of Sex. Universally, prevention is better than cure, goes as a law, but the question remains ? Is sex education a prevention, cure or an experiment the result of which is either not known or is deliberately being forced in the society? What if you have educated a child in sex and he fails to hold his temptations thereafter? What would you call that situation ? the prevention failed or the medicine failed? Let us try to understand prevention in a better way. If I am not mistaken, prevention is a boundary, a boundary that tells you what lies on the other side. At a broad level, there are three types of boundaries:

First, we are completely aware what lie on the other side of the boundary. For example, nearly every one knows the after effect of smoking.

Second, we are partially or unaware of the negative factors and accept the boundaries as a part of cultural values, with the awareness of the positive factors within the boundary. For example, if we do exercise, we say it is a preventive measure from bad health. The details of bad health may not be known in completeness to the doer, but there is a straight conception that fits to his mind ? exercise is good for health.

Third, we are completely unaware of positive or negative factors on either side of the boundary. For example, doing some rituals as a religious practice.

If Sex education is a prevention boundary, it should find a place in one of the above category. First, why do we need this education? A simple answer is that we do it sometimes. Second, how do we do sex (even with our spouse): in privacy or publicly? Do we discuss it out openly with friends and expose our spouse to them? If the answers to these questions is No and convincingly No, then the first boundary lies with the adults itself ? how can they talk sex with their children or students, when we cannot practice it before them? We have to understand a very important aspect here. If we dare to talk such things with children, we are breaking away the boundary of respect and regard straight away (they or we not able to talk sex with each other signifying that there is some regard that produces this shyness or hesitation). We are undoubtedly introducing a concept that would teach our children to go beyond this boundary and easily practice sex, the barriers being broken and broken by teachers and parents first. During childhood, sex is a curiosity and hence is not known to them completely. All they know is that it is considered wrong by elders and is practiced between parents. Curiosity can take shape of temptation and temptations would lead to doing the wrong, if children are not taught of values that can help them prevent the temptation. Talking to them about sex would kill their curiosity and give birth to educated temptation. Thus, sex education so seeming to be an experimented cure, would necessarily lead to side effect of practicing sex as an educated practitioner. Sex education would in fact as a catalyst in producing sexual practices, and can in no way be a preventive measure. This education has no relation with feelings like temptations. Temptations can be only held by practice of cultural values, may be as a fear to breach the respectful barrier. Preventive measures are healthier and positive aspects, and can be talked and propagated positively towards everyone. Holding to values and teaching our children to remain in boundaries is actually a preventive measure and would protect majority of them from committing the hazard.

The proposed solution is still experimentation ? the world is yet to see a generation that would be protected from practicing sex early during childhood and teenage after getting educated on sex. The proposed solution of sex education is thus very much risky and it can totally devastate the society if it fails to deliver the purpose, provoking children to enter premature sexual relations.

The intuition and notion of sex education as a solution started to create the awareness towards the deadly disease AIDS. It is a disease born out of sex and can spread out of various reasons which includes unsafe sex, blood transfusion, etc. The first unseen and politicized mistake is acceptance by the society that people need to be aware of this disease and should adapt to safe sex practices. At this point it seemed unquestionably correct, as adults were to be educated for usage of condoms. Unfortunately, this was the stepping stone towards growing errors. The ground error is that it is accepted that adults cannot hold from doing extra-marital and pre-marital affairs. And the true solution negated is ? people not educated on values and importance of holding on values. It is here values plays its importance and Indian value in this term is very much known to the society ? no extra-marital affairs and no pre-marital affairs ? complete honesty with the partner and thus complete dedication towards their home leading to a life that is happy and supported by your relations and respected by outsiders ? No possibility of AIDS in existence.

But more ground fact is that above values cannot be achieved unless it is inculcated in people when they are still ripe, when they are as young as children. Childhood is a state where you shape up your character. It takes huge effort for adults to change their nature, but not for a child. Values inculcated in children can help them grow to a brighter and healthier personality. This seems to me so simple to execute, simple because it can very easily get passed on to following generation as family values. In fact, it is still a part of Indian culture, which by the weapon of sex education, being totally devastated under the umbrella of the word ?EDUCATION?. What is wrong in asking our children to respect elders and consider every woman as respectable as our own mother and sister? It is all about building this strong and positive perception in our little gems. In fact, would we dare to call our little angels as angels and gems, the moment we realize that he has adopted to means like sex which is not suitable to his age, which his mind would not absorb to the fullest of the concept, where there would be every chance for him to slip towards experiencing it because now the education is exposing the vulnerable erotic and ecstatic feelings which is yet in abnormal form of curiosity in the child ? would we still dare to call our children as angels and gems. Will he not start challenging his patience by thinking the same about his relations? Will he then enjoy respect and regards towards any of the opposite gender? And I wonder why it is not thought that once sex goes into the education stream of children, children would by natural manner start talking about it among them. A child boy will talk to a child girl about their sex knowledge ? a boundary that protects every child (at least most of them), from sexual pitfalls at early age would be totally destroyed. Is this what our modern parent expects from their children? As long as children do not talk about sex, they would fear to break the boundary and majority of the generation can be saved. But once, this is broken, majority of the generation would be devastated.

I sometimes ponder, why is human so weak to not realize the problems of practices like sex education? Why didn’t they look at societies which has already experimented this as a solution? We can very well go into the western education system where sex is a compulsory education and try to quantify and derive statistics on whether it has actually helped children from doing sex. The facts would be un-amazingly opposite to what is being proposed. They are exposed to sex as an adoptable practice, they are aware of how to protect from sexual disease, for instance by using condoms, and they simply enter into actually doing it. Why don?t we realize a simple thing, children would experiment everything if they are given the freedom? As responsible adults, we are to guide children about wrong and right and not expose them to the wrongs and the means to do the wrongs without getting harmed.

It would be surprising to understand that foundations of such human weaknesses are laid down by modern western thinkers, who adopt the theory and practice of allowing children to do what they wish. These thinkers believe that children require information about everything that they see and hear and if not provided they will get it from wrong sources, and hence, as responsible parents and elders we should share with them all problems like sex, deaths, hazards, etc. Truly speaking, there is a very thin boundary between good and bad, between right and wrong, so thin that once you cross, there is nearly no regret, no comeback. People often start smoking or drinking, with an attitude to taste ? how it feels ? and the boundary is broken. Next time, it is not the first time and they do it with the intention that it would be the last time and the action repeats. Why can?t we straightaway put into the minds of our children to keep away from these things by letting them realize that it is bad ? very bad? Some parents agree to this as the impact of smoking is quite visible to them. How can it happen that all other behaviors of life don?t have similar negative impacts? It is seriously required to define the boundary of right and wrong in all that we do. For instance, philosophers and psychiatrists are now provoking people to talk sex with children. They believe that they will learn it from wrong sources and stealthily, which would create negative behavior in them. How silly? Why can?t children be allowed to consider it wrong as long as they are children? Why aren?t they allowed to learn about such things as they grow in boundaries and learn to practice it only in right manner at right time? Why are these great thinkers so eager to take away the opportunity of self ? development from these children, which nature has provided them? Nature doesn’t allow children to do sex and hence it is wrong for them as long as they are children. What is wrong in telling them that it is wrong and bad when actually it is wrong at their stage? They automatically will learn its importance and usage when they grow and such children will respect sex and practice it religiously as a part of married life.

Accepting that children would learn sex from wrong sources, is actually an acceptance to the happenings in the society around ? cultural degradation in social environment remains unchallenged and in fact attains maturity by allowing the upcoming generation to get educated on it and practice it untimely. Children would grow physically weak, and to much greater extent mentally weak if they endeavor to unfold their temptations through sexual education. The next generation is being challenged for their superiority of behavior and the induced sex education would surely overthrow the master culture of respect and regard.

We need to help our children to enhance their resistive power, their tolerance power, their patience, their understanding to respect and regard the values taught by parents and teachers. We cannot simply accept that our children would learn from wrong source about habits that are tempting, if we do not allow them to learn from us. We cannot make our children so weak that they go for anything that fulfills their mental desires and curiosity. We need to develop in them right from their childhood a habit to hold on temptations, so that they get matured enough to handle toughest situations in life. Indian culture have always taught children to grow up by practicing patience, yoga, respect towards elders, and all positive aspects that can create a great individual. Isn?t it necessary for our society to have stable families with respectable practices?

If Indian values and practices that taught children of such high attitude are considered as Stone Age by modern tutors, this would be unfortunate for the country. It is so simple to understand that people of Stone Age were used to living in nudity, and if we have grown rich in knowledge and understood the importance of clothes in societies, we have to respect clothes. Clothes are the first indication of boundaries against sex and children are to be protected from media which breaks this boundary. Let us promise to help our upcoming generation to become strong mentally, brace enough to fight these petty temptations and grow powerful in their thinking so that they are capable of doing great tasks.

SEX IN HINDUISM

Swami Vivekanand said, ?In west, every woman other than mother is a wife. Among Hindus, every woman other than wife is a mother.? I do not know other religion, than Hinduism, which teaches values of so high regard. Such high values exist because sex was never neglected in Indian philosophy ? it was rather researched to be a powerful source of energy in any individual. It was understood that any energy has to be utilized in the boundary of natural law and hence, sex was to be practiced by recognized partners, only for specific purpose and within age boundaries. It was recognized that mastering sex required immense control on the self and practicing it only with partners required even greater control on self. Going beyond this to practice it only for the purpose of reproduction, to meet the purpose of nature, was even tougher. Thus, this natural power of every creature was considered as a natural power and as usual, every natural power in Hindu philosophy holds a Deity in its name. Thus, Kamadeva (Deity of lust) came into being. Sex became a concept of worship and anything worship-able was never misused.

Sex as a study went deep to unfold all its secrets for Ayurvedic practitioners. But for the common people, it remained a respectable action. This is one major reason, why we do not find any major disease related to sex known in Indian societies. People often quote examples of Khajuraho as a symbol of Hindu sex ? which is very wrong ? why was such sensual images created in caves? Were such caves a general practice of production? How many books of Hindus describe Sex as openly as Khajuraho The answers to these questions, clarifies, that there must have been some purpose behind Khajuraho which is lost in the past.

Hinduism has never taught utilizing any natural power in negative fashion ? unlike modern science. And sex is one such power that exists in Hinduism within natural human boundaries.

It is often seen that one bad belief by virtue of its natural capacity draws another bad belief. If Sex education among children is an attempt to molest the future of nation, the Long Leaders by virtue of their devastating attitude build one after another similar attitude ? producing Reservation into system that can eradicate the unity of the nation and prove the critics that Casteism is a part of not only Hinduism, but also of Hindu nation ? in which case, the concept of Secularism would be lost and immediately the Hindus would get attached to it.