This article is about your first time having sex with a girl……Here are some tips for your first female bisexual experience.

There’s an awful lot wrapped up in your first lesbian sexual encounter. Being nervous is normal. It might be your first time having sex or your first time having sex with another woman. There’s much cultural hype about your first time or losing your virginity. You never forget your first time. Here’s a few tips to get you through your first time lesbian sexual experience.

1. Know your own body. Before you can turn someone else on, it’s good to know what makes you hot. Masturbation is good. Spend some one-on-one time with yourself. When you touch yourself and find the places which feel pleasurable, you’ll know where to touch her.And more importantly, how to convey to her what turns you on.

   

2. I suggest you go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sexual experience. Alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you stay sober.
3. Fantasize heavily. This all begins with a hot fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are your thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed, strip you naked and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool and start kissing all over? You must imagine it before you can do it.
4. Leave all your sex toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with them. Let your first time be a simple and natural flesh on flesh love.
5. Relax. Take your sweet time. Touch her all over. Don’t go straight for her crotch. Undress her very slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her and kiss her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck and back. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss and lick behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Become naked and lay your body on top of hers. Grind one-another, There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.When you do get down to her crouch area, Slowly lick up her thighs and kiss her vulva. Spread her legs and open her lips with your fingers. Take a look. Tell her how beautiful she looks.

   
   Use your tongue. Your whole tongue. Flatten it out. Use just the tip. Lick her like an ice cream cone. Flick it like a butterfly wing. Use gentle strokes. As her excitement builds, add more pressure. Focus more on the area around her clit.

6. Communicate. Ask her what she desires. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good ans sensual. Tell her where you like to be touched. Communication is a very important key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you really like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.
7. Have a realistic expectation. Your very first time with a girl should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is all about. Orgasm may or may not occur the first time. It’s okay. The important point is to become physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.

Girl on Girl sex can be a fascinating experience, one which you will probably one to do over and over again. I know I have !!

Recently, a swingers club in Europe surveyed 100 bisexual women asking them what their favorite fantasies were, these are the results:

1. Sex with (many) strangers

Many women relish the idea of meeting a mystery man or women and having a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel that the only people with whom they can truly let loose are strangers, simply because they won’t be judged! And who cares anyway? They’ll probably never see the “beautiful stranger” again.

2. Participating in a large orgy

Group sex is a popular fantasy among ladies; “The freedom of being naked in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate their bodies simultaneously was incredibly erotic.”

3. Who is the Boss?

If there’s one thing that women are dying to do, is to dominate a man and a woman at the same time!

4. A Sex Show

In today’s world of confident women, it’s not surprising that many of them fantasize about having an audience whilst engaging in sexual activity… the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their “performance” provides women with a feeling of empowerment!

5. Three’s Rape

Another popular fantasy is to have a couple “raping” her and just lie defenseless to enjoy their precious passion.

6. Three Girls Trio

Virtually every woman wants, or is willing to share her body with other women. Guys, are you jealous because you feel left out? Don’t worry, most of these women think it’s exiting to have their man watching them while they play!

7. Striptease for a group

Many women get erotically charged to perform a strip for an audience, or to do a lap-dance for a guy and girl. Some even think it’s sexy to get bills in their panties during their performance.

8. Two going down on her

Girls also fantasize about a man and a woman going down on her at the same time. I find the logistics complicated but it sounds very exciting to me!

9. Strap on DP

Two lovers penetrating her during an Adonis Trio (FFM) is also very erotic for most women. This fantasy scores very high!

10. Being seduced by a couple without her expecting it

Bisexual women like attention! and what better choice than having two lovers sweeping her of her feet. Bisexual women also recognize that couples working together are a lot of fun in bed. It’s no wonder this fantasy scores so high!

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Do not confuse with bisexuality to being gay or vice versa because the truth is that bisexuality is a valid sexual orientation on its own. Bisexual people are completely different from bi-curios people who are usually heterosexuals and are interested in “experimentation” with homosexuality.

After years of difficulties to the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual & Transgender) community, political and social development, alongside the rapid advancement of the net as a media, stimulated a large alteration making bi singles addressable to date who were found active in traditional places like bars and clubs and now approachable to a huge like minded audience. While surfing net you will come across a large number of commercial and free bisexual dating sites that offer both standard matchmaking services and ‘adult’ services. There are many websites that aims at minimizing the hassle in finding profiles. The profiles are sorted according to country, language and by other criteria like age range, education, hobbies and more. Many of these websites offer additive facilities like chats, videos, live cams and instant messaging.

In a world where dating sites are separated by any and every possible niche market there are many dating websites that are gradually coming up with an offer also for bisexual men and women. There are many dating sites that concentrate on building communities for straight or gay men and women, but there are also certain sites that specifically look to contract the gap. Those sites are bisexual dating sites created to assist those who have realized that it is the individual, and not the gender, that counts. On these sites you will come across many open-minded, free-spirited, bisexual singles who have gathered here with the same reason as you.

It should be understand that sexual feelings often drift freely, when you are young which means that people often gets attracted both sexes, at least for a short span of their lives. But having bisexual feelings does not necessarily make you a bisexual. But it is very sad to see bisexual people not fitting into the category and how threatening it is to find that they cannot classify themselves. But still bisexual relationships and bisexual dating can be much like any other kind of dating provided that you stick to the person whom you think to be fit for you. No more to stay in the nutshell, instead flung open the doors and windows of your dark world and let the light from the dating world come in. Start to work with your mind and finger that will surely find your true soul mate.

The Internet has opened a world of opportunities for everyone. Everything has undergone a major change with the advent of the Internet, and in recent years computers and the Internet have become an important part in everyone’s life. Many things have become simpler, easier and more convenient due to the Internet, and communicating and meeting new people is no exception. The online dating community has more and more members every day, because people are more than happy to have overcome any boundaries that may have stood in their way of developing a relationship or finding a spouse, such as time and space.

As has been said before, the dating community is becoming larger with each day that passes. More and more people are becoming aware of the fact that this is the best place to find exactly the person that they are looking for and have dreamt of meeting for a long time. Be it long-lasting relationships, marriages or just affairs and flirts, the Internet and dating web site are home to all sorts of encounters. Whatever your tastes and interests may be, you are very likely to find an ideal partner online. You can find single girls, men, bisexuals, gay people, people of all ages and nationalities. Your most intimate fantasy or your dream of love, marriage and a wonderful family can turn into reality with the help of dating sites and flirt chats. Single girls, men, bisexuals, etc. are waiting to make your acquaintance and develop a relationship, be it friendship, affair or romance. The Internet is indeed the place to go when looking for single girls, men, bisexuals, or any other type of people. With the convenience and availability that the Internet and dating sites have, more and more people are starting to give up on the traditional ways of dating and socializing. Therefore, the dating communities are becoming larger and larger, and you can literally take your pick there. There are thousands of single girls, men, bisexuals, gays, etc. waiting to meet new and exciting people.

The Internet and dating sites are also the ideal place to go if you are looking for marriage to a foreigner. Many women want to find west European men or American men for marriage or relationship, and what better place to do so than on the Internet, where there are no constraints and limitations, nor is there any pressure to rush into a relationship before you really get to know that person. If you want to find American men for marriage or relationship, there are a few good web sites that provide excellent services in this respect. The larger the community and the more popular the web site, the better chances you have at finding west European or American men for marriage or relationship. And you should know that there are many men from the United States or west European countries looking for a relationship with an east European lady.

Many people have found happiness and a fulfilling relationship online. Why shouldn’t you be one of them?

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Liberated Writing and ‘Forgiving Bisexuality’: A Brief

Analysis of Cixous’ Concept of Bisexuality

The condition of Women, if looked at from the views a woman perceives herself and the happy and sad she becomes during such moments of her real life, will be found to be very deplorable. No doubt, we have seen women in honourable positions and at helm of affairs but there is lately a question as to whether the woman in such capacities remains a woman or becomes the other (the man). Here the  question comes ‘what is this becoming?’. In looking at this, we take reference to the works and advocacy of French Feminists. French Feminist Cixous has proposed  creation of a literary culture ‘l’ecriture feminne’. The necessity to express a woman’s feelings and desires unhindered, unrepressed and uninfluenced is in the main theme of  the thought  These feelings and desires Cixous says is the basic of her perceiving and expressing and these are related intricately and inseparably with her sexuality ? very simply, the way of experiencing the world by her being a woman. The experiences of men and  women are different because they are sexually differently oriented. At times  it is  observed that a person is having both the qualities ? an instance of bisexuality.

Noted French Feminist Cixous argues the essential necessity of Bisexuality relating the disposition of one person are essential in understanding the present trend of feminism. Now- a- days we see how girls are coming forward for education and are enthusiastically taking up employment or are creating self-employment. At this moment, the women are to be very conscious and active so that they can attain their goal. Writing will be the potential tool for women in this.

The tremendous effort put by women to write and express themselves signifies the urgency to capture a space in this fast changing, highly vulnerable world of the men. She is afraid that she will be lost somewhere in the unknown and perish without  leaving a frill of her existence in this men dominated world. And this has driven many a woman to write. Writing seems to be the weapon to fight for survival. The desire to die without words and escape the world silently without resistance has come to be replaced by the desire to tell and die. The woman who was weak, who was to be protected, who used to pray her husband and god for their mercy is the woman of past.  Today’s woman is highly energetic, educated, intelligent and potential.

Everywhere, women are entering with great vigour and exposing their selves—the physical, the psychological and the sexual selves. One will be surprised to know how differently a woman changes her disposition, expression, love and hatred; her being from moment to moment. The multitude of her existence is in fact an attribute to her being and after much trial and error she has stepped in the right phase of writing—a writing which ruptures her silence. At this point, it is in great honour to the feminist literary critic Elaine Showalter if I highlight the three phases she classified chronologically to sketch out the journey of women writers in their evolutionary process of writing. Women imitated the men between1840-1880, then they protested against every kind of patriarchal dominance they faced while writing between1880-1920, and ultimately they reached the summit of their task to write and express their self after discovering and re-discovering their own selves. This has been the process since 1920 onwards. Some eminent critics of French feminism like Helene Cixous, Luce Irigaray, and Julia Kristeva have taken a very bold and courageous step to invite women to freedom through writing. Their attempts have come very recently, yet in a very short span of time women have become able to realize that their existence should be made audible and to practically deal with the suppressed fact that they really exist.

This courage the women have gathered from their knowledge about themselves. Earlier they thought themselves to be what the men said about them but now she knows she is not what the men say her to be. Now she knows that she has her own feelings and desires — she is an independent and complete being, her ways are essentially freminist.  It is the essentialism for which feminist theories like l’écriture feminine can be hailed with. To bring out the essence of women’s existence or the very jouissance in women has been the main objective of these set of elite women. Their inspirational force is centered on the body of the woman, which is the sole site of oppression and the only site where desire or jouissance originates. Biologically, the masculine ideology defines the female body as passive as it acts as the receptacle for the sperm and sexually she is visualized as somebody who is rapable. This is the man’s woman. The visualization of the female as a subordinate/passive/irrational/frail creature triggers in fact every relation in the existing phallogocentrically dominated ideological world, where man’s beliefs, achievements, dictates, powers and even the mode of male expression is constantly in praise. The man has till now remained superior, active, rational, strong.  The definition of the female with respect to the male further activates the binary opposition between the male and the female. The new mode of writing which is a dynamic writing has entered with a bash to bring rapture between these kinds of hierarchical binary opposition. The position of the subordinate/passive/irrational/frail have been instrumentalised to crush the stances which have always otherwise imposed an obstacle for expressing. India is a land which inherits women who write in such a mode from the very arrestee position where she is.

Body     fatures in the poems of the celebrated poet Kamala Das where the woman speaks and the man listens, where the woman deceives and leaves her husband, where the woman reduces the masculinity of the male. Back home in Assam the internet is blogged with many a new upcoming writers like Anita Kashyap who has attempted to bring out Tejeemola (the most celebrated frail woman in the Assamese folk tale) to the limelight once again through her verses on Tejeemola. Tejeemola works on the mekhela chador and weaves flower on it: a sign of trying to relive a new life. The website www/assamorg.com/ hosts many women writers who are attempting to shatter completely the grammaticalised monotonous masculine language and assert their essence through a more volatile, fluid and fragmented language much like her own psychology. The woman is up to babble, the word which

Iigaray uses to define the feminine language outside the symbolic which is based on her theory of the anatomy of female genitalia, whose shape is that of two constantly touching and retouching lips. Women’s fragmented existence is reflected in her absolutely fragmented language which looses grip to any ordered flow of thought and enriches itself by multiple desires in innumerable expressions reflecting the survival of the many within one single physical entity. And therefore, Irigaray names her essay This Sex Which Is Not One.

Toril Moi perhaps takes binary opposition as a wider concept than a mere battlefield of the masculine and the feminine. She uses the word “imbricate” to place her argument. Cixous observes everywhere in nature a kind of binarisation of things where the superior positions itself above the inferior or the positive above the negative but Moi’s reading of Cixous takes an advantageous turn. She feels binary oppositions are not always against each other but they inherently support the stance of each other making the one indispensable without the other. This, however, echoes Cixous’ concept of bisexuality. Cixous dreams of an all encompassing sexuality where the difference as well as similarities should exist simultaneously rather than being monosexual. Monosexuality, Cixous feels is a limitation—a limitation which have narrowed down the perspective of men and thereby rendered their knowledge of women incomplete. It might be because men have fears to tread the path of women’s existence or because men fear the Medusa he might confront if done so.

The very attempt to define women is a wrong attitude towards understanding a woman. The woman, if defined is insulted. Inversely, if space is allowed to scribble her or let loose her then she will tell her story(s). this is the need of the hour to  give her a new birth. Cixous feels there is only one “I” who is the speaker of all the I(s) who exist within the physical entity of woman. The  I can be the questionnaire, the replier; the one who censors, the one who lets loose; the one who cries, the one who consoles; the one who trusts, the one who betrays; the one who cares, the one who needs care; the one who kills, the one who saves; the one who snatches, the one who sacrifices; the one who thinks, the one who feels; the one who earns, the one who spends; the one who escapes, the one who confronts; the one who mothers, the one who aborts; the one who fights, the one who bears; the one who speaks, the one who listens; the one who hates, the one who loves; the one who faints, the one who stands.

Language falls short to express them and they are not at all worried for they are out to express without language but with anything they are comfortable with. An anti-language. Probably, the story of this language would never reach an end. An endless liberation of the body and the breath.

The study, by a team of psychologists in Chicago and Toronto, lends support to those who have long been skeptical that bisexuality is a distinct and stable sexual orientation.

People who claim bisexuality, according to these critics, are usually homosexual, but are ambivalent about their homosexuality or simply closeted. “You’re either gay, straight or lying,” as some gay men have put it.

In the new study, a team of psychologists directly measured genital arousal patterns in response to images of men and women. The psychologists found that men who identified themselves as bisexual were in fact exclusively aroused by either one sex or the other, usually by other men.

The study is the largest of several small reports suggesting that the estimated 1.7 percent of men who identify themselves as bisexual show physical attraction patterns that differ substantially from their professed desires.

“Research on sexual orientation has been based almost entirely on self-reports, and this is one of the few good studies using physiological measures,” said Dr. Lisa Diamond, an associate professor of psychology and gender identity at the University of Utah, who was not involved in the study.

The discrepancy between what is happening in people’s minds and what is going on in their bodies, she said, presents a puzzle “that the field now has to crack, and it raises this question about what we mean when we talk about desire.”

“We have assumed that everyone means the same thing,” she added, “but here we have evidence that that is not the case.”

Your boyfriend tends to remark on what the men in the bar are wearing as often as he does the girls. When he’s had a little to drink he flirts a little with the men at the table. Although he says that he is hetero, you are beginning to wonder if maybe he would bat for both teams, if given the chance.

Bisexuality is fast becoming less though of as a third orientation. Some bisexuals contend that we are all bisexual to a degree. Others submit that it is a natural part of curiosity and most people have thoughts or feelings about the same sex as well as the opposite sex, but do not consider themselves as homosexual. Still others shout from the roof tops that it is the best of both worlds. So if he is attracted to both men and women, does that automatically make him a bisexual?

Not necessarily. The best definition I’ve heard of sexual orientation is based not on who you have slept with, but who you’d like to sleep with. Take it for what it’s worth. It’s also a myth that all bisexuals are just going through a phase in determining which sexuality they prefer to identify with. This is dangerous thinking because it implies that homosexuality is a choice, which the moral majority would have you believe. We know that it is not.

You need also remember that sexuality is like a spiral, not a line. It can change and shift over time. Just because a person is attracted to both sexes doe not mean that they can not have a magnanimous relationship with one person. They have chosen you as a person, not as a sexual being. Bisexuals are often not attracted equally to both sexes, either, although nothing is set in stone-some are.

So what are you going to do about it? Remember that he may not see it himself, or he may be denying it, or confused, or afraid you won’t understand. You need to figure out how you feel about the possibility before you confront him or jump to conclusions that could hurt your relationship. If you have a problem with it, maybe you should look at why. Are you insecure or afraid he will “turn gay” and leave you if it comes out in the open? Honesty in a relationship is the most important aspect of intimacy, and not sex.

If you are with a great guy and have great sex and you love each other, who cares who he is attracted to? He may never act on it, or you may discuss the possibility of him acting on his feelings if it’s out in the open. If it’s true he will probably be relieved.

But what if you’re wrong? If you think he may be bisexual but aren’t sure, you had better make reasonably sure before you ask him about it. If the two of you have been together for awhile, this will probably be easier, but if the relationship is new you might want to check with old girlfriends or mutual friends before you shoot off your mouth. If you are just being easily jealous and insecure because of your own issues, get a grip.

Q: What do Hollywood celebrities Angelina Jolie, Drew Barrymore, Madonna & Denise Richards, Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan, Jada Pinkett Smith have in common? (Besides that they are all celebrities)

A: They are all Bisexual Straight Women

You’ll agree, this term sounds contradictory right? – Not really. A Bisexual Straight Woman is a woman who frequently makes direct or thinly-veiled comments about being attracted to women, occasionally kisses or sleeps with them, but rarely or never actually dates women. She sees herself primarily as heterosexual, and while she is attracted to women, it’s purely on a sexual level; she has no interest in a romantic relationship with another woman beyond sex.

A recent survey by a popular guy’s magazine shows that 63% of the women surveyed admitted that they would like to sexually experiment with another woman!

Just look around and you’ll see images of women kissing, holding hands and being intimate with each other in magazines, movies and advertising…VOGUE, ELLE and COSMOPOLITAN have featured articles about female bisexuality in recent issues!

In films like Wild Things and Femme Fatale we got to see lots of hot girl-on-girl action and/or threesomes. In acclaimed television shows like SEX and the City, Buffy The Vampire Slayer and Ally McBeal, the topic of bisexuality is openly displayed. In the music industry, the 2 girl duo TATU made a bisexual statement by taking off their clothes and having hundreds of girls kissing on stage and even Britney and Madonna had a tongue kiss on stage during the Recent MTV Awards – This sexual trend is spreading like wild fire all over the world and many people are already benefiting from it!

If you think about it, a threesome is the perfect place for women to experiment with each other without the awkward feeling of being by themselves with a lady for the first time – most bicurious women simply prefer the reassurance of having a man besides them during their first experience with another woman…This reassurance helps them enjoy the soft and creamy touch of another female in a more relaxed way.

What does this mean to you? That your chances of having a threesome had never been better – this is why it’s ESSENTIAL that you learn how to help women transform their secret sexual desires and fantasies into reality… If you learn to do this, having threesomes regularly will be easier than you ever possibly imagined.

How Can You Benefit From The New Sexual Revolution?

If you want to attract threesomes into your life you’ll need to understand the little known psychological secrets that will literally push any woman over the edge to having a threesome with you.

Soon you’ll know how to make her fantasies come alive and as a result you’ll enjoy the pleasure of having sex with two women at the same time. You’ll understand why a 3rd person is an infusion of sexual juice into your love making!

Simply reading this article puts you within arms reach of your threesome…

You’ll agree with me that a whole new sexual revolution has just begun and the fact that you’re reading this article means you are ready to join the selected group of INSIDERS who are already enjoying the benefits of recreational sex as part of their sex life…

Why are women suddenly interested in experimenting with other women?

In reality, this curiosity by heterosexually-identified women isn’t new… What’s new is the increase in public awareness and public acceptance of female bisexuality that will transform the way we look at sex in the next decade.

According to a recent study, the NHS fails to provide adequate care to lesbian and bisexual women. The study, Prescription for Change, was conducted by gay rights organization Stonewall and De Montfort University. It surveyed over 6,000 lesbians and bisexual women on health-care, which makes it the biggest survey of its kind outside the USA.

The survey found that UK health-care workers have little knowledge of lesbian and bisexual sexual practices, which alienates lesbian and bisexual women and may lead to their conditions being misdiagnosed or left untreated. Indeed, one participant – Maya, from the South West – said health-care workers just assumed she was heterosexual. She explained: “Health-care workers continually assume I am heterosexual and ask inappropriate questions about my relationships. I am often lectured about safe sex and preventing pregnancy without being given a chance to say that I do not sleep with men anymore.”

Even though it has been unlawful to discriminate against lesbian and bisexual women in the provision of public service since April 2007, the survey found that only 49% of the people interviewed didn’t come out to their GP due to worries of discrimination. One in ten lesbian and bisexual women told the survey that they did come out to a health-care worker, but they were either ignored or rejected when they did.

The survey found that four per cent of lesbian and bisexual women had been told by their doctor that they didn’t need to be tested for sexually transmitted infections. Despite this, a quarter of the women surveyed have tested positive for a sexually transmitted infection in the past. In addition to this, one in five lesbian and bisexual women were told that they didn’t need a smear test. This is not true and has led to one in five lesbian and bisexual women wrongly thinking that they are not at risk of developing cervical cancer.

Stonewall’s chief executive Ben Summerskill said of the findings: “Lesbian and gay taxpayers fund 60,000 posts with in the NHS yet with the marked exception of gay men’s sexual health, their specific health needs are almost invisible.”

In order to improve the current NHS service for bisexual and lesbian women, the survey has recommended that the NHS should give regular training to its health-care workers to ensure that they stop making assumptions that all women are heterosexual. In addition to this, one of the survey’s participants – Tola, from London – believes that simply sticking up gay-friendly posters and leaflets in hospitals and GP surgeries and information on lesbian, gay and bisexual specific services’ could make a difference to lesbian and bisexual women by making them feel more accepted.
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Diversity is one of the buzzwords of our culture today. But one group stands out by its absence: bisexuals. Who talks about bisexuality? If your partner is the opposite gender, you are considered straight; if not, you are gay or lesbian. Period.

The in-between nature of bisexuality is uncomfortable for many of us. We tend to think dualistically, putting things neatly into boxes labeled black or white, good or bad, male or female. Bisexuality challenges our dualistic concept of sexuality. The truth is that people don?t fit neatly into boxes!

Some researchers have noted that being bisexual is similar to being biracial. Mixed-race persons generally do not feel comfortable or accepted by people of either ethnic group, feeling that they do not fit in anywhere. Like bisexual people, they spend most of their lives moving between two communities, neither of which understand them.

Like biracial people, bisexual people must create an identity that corresponds to their experience. Forming a bisexual identity helps bisexual people to structure and give meaning to their reality.

Myths about bisexuality abound in our culture. These often serve to foster prejudice and mistrust of bisexuals, and hinder the development of a healthy bisexual identity.

MYTH: Bisexuals are promiscuous.

REALITY: Bisexual people have a range of sexual behaviors. Some have multiple partners; some have one partner; some go through periods without a partner. Promiscuity is no more prevalent in the bisexual population than in other groups.

MYTH: Bisexuals are equally attracted to both genders.

REALITY: Bisexuals tend to favor either the same or the opposite gender, while recognizing their attraction to both.

MYTH: Being bisexual means having concurrent lovers of both genders.

REALITY: Being bisexual simply means the potential for involvement with either gender. This may mean sexually, emotionally, in reality, or in fantasy. Some bisexual people may have concurrent lovers; others may relate to different genders at different periods in their lives.

MYTH: Bisexuals cannot be monogamous.

REALITY: Bisexuality is a sexual orientation. It is independent of a lifestyle of monogamy or non-monogamy. Bisexuals are as capable as anyone of making a long-term monogamous commitment to a partner they love.

MYTH: Bisexuals are denying their lesbianism or gayness. (In other words, bisexuals do not exist.)

REALITY: Bisexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation in and of itself, though most bisexuals consider themselves part of the generic term ?gay.?

MYTH: Bisexuals are in ?transition.? (In other words, bisexuals do not exist.)

REALITY: Some people go through a transitional period of ?bisexuality? on their way to adopting a lesbian, gay or heterosexual identity. For many others, bisexuality remains a permanent orientation.

MYTH: Bisexuals just haven?t met the right woman or man yet. (In other words, bisexuals do not exist.)

REALITY: This statement implies that if the ?right? person came along, then the bisexual person could be influenced to change his or her sexual orientation. Most gays, lesbians, and bisexuals, as well as researchers in the field, agree that sexual orientation is a trait, not a state that can be easily changed.

MYTH: Bisexuals are confused about their sexuality.

REALITY: It is natural for bisexuals, as well as lesbians and gays, to go through a period of confusion in the coming out process. When someone is continually told that he or she does not exist, confusion is an understandable and appropriate reaction.

MYTH: Bisexuals can hide in the heterosexual community when the going gets tough.

REALITY: To ?pass? for straight and deny their bisexuality is just as painful and damaging for bisexuals as it is for gays and lesbians. Bisexuals are not heterosexual and do not usually identify as heterosexual, even if they are in a relationship with an opposite-gender partner.

MYTH: Bisexuals? friendships are never safe from sex, and every relationship will eventually be sexual.

REALITY: Bisexuals, like other people, are not attracted to every person they meet. Rather, they will be attracted to a small percentage of the population. It is therefore possible for bisexuals to have many friendships that do not include a sexual component.

If you or a loved one are struggling with questions about bisexuality, we hope you will take time to listen to your instincts, and to find support from friends, family or a knowledgeable counselor. Bisexuality has been around for eons, and it?s time we stop sticking our heads in the sand about it!

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