You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there’s a lot less information – and opinion – on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here’s our list of ten things for women to avoid.

1 Expecting him to think like a woman

We’ve all seen loads of books with titles like “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don’t think the same way – and while we’re not going to get into why this happens, it’s important to remember that fact when you’re in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don’t see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can’t. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn’t feeling romantic and connected to his partner.

For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn’t need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that’s what women don’t understand.

They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don’t appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex – or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.

2 Not showing your sexual energy

Women who were brought up to be demure “good girls” (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex.
But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion – whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.

3 Being too gentle when you touch his penis

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you’ll see how much pressure he uses on his penis – especially as he nears orgasm. If you’re doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you’re doing right and what he’d like done differently. He’ll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.

4 Not experimenting with sex

The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour – or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that’s an exaggeration, but it isn’t much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it’s true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they’re not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time – about the things they see, what they’d like to do, how they’d like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it’s not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy. It doesn’t have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you’ve never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay – or even during the main event. Seduce him into a “quickie” by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you’d like to do to him later that day…..well, you get the idea – use your imagination!

5 Expecting him to read your mind

Yes, we know it’s difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don’t think like women. They don’t read clues, they don’t get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he’ll know exactly what he’s supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he’s doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.

6 Criticizing him

I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they’ve never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it – and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk – they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.
Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met – but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you’ve begun to understand that your man won’t know what you want unless you tell him. If you’re judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I’m afraid you aren’t likely to be very satisfied. And it won’t be his fault.

7 Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm

A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to “give” a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that’s how a lot of us were brought up – that a man somehow has to look after “his” woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex…..but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don’t make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.

8 Controlling him by withdrawing sex

One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don’t want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don’t feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)

9 Thinking he’ll feel the same way about your body that you do

It just isn’t so. Men don’t attach the judgments to women’s bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won’t matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won’t be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you’re completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he’ll never give it a second thought. It’s women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.

10 Not making up with sex after an argument

Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they’ve had an argument, but in fact many more don’t. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I’ve met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.

Even if you don’t feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that’s talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track – just go to bed together!
Rod Phillips

For men, reaching an orgasm is fairly simple whether they are with a partner or masturbating. While most men do have preferences about the types of positions and stimulation they enjoy, it seems that almost anything can push them over the edge if they are already in a state of arousal.

With women, it’s a bit different. In this article, we’re going to look at four reasons why it can be harder for women to orgasm than men.

1 Physical Reasons

The most obvious reason why women have a more difficult time reaching orgasms is physical. Their sexual anatomy is built differently than men’s and this has consequences when it comes to sexual pleasure.

For men, orgasm is relatively easy because the source of their sexual pleasure is the penis. The penis is not only completely visible but it can easily be stimulated. Additionally, a man’s arousal level is easier to recognize: an erect penis usually means he is ready for sexual intercourse and capable of reaching orgasm.

For women, it’s not so straight forward.

The main pleasure center for women is the clitoris which is approximately the same size as the penis but which is mostly concealed. The part of the clitoris which is accessible can not be easily stimulated by the penis through normal penetration. Even during masturbation, women must often try multiple methods and positions before finding the right combination to lead to an orgasm. Furthermore, signs of a woman’s arousal may not be as easy to spot unless her partner is looking for them specifically.

The consequences of these physical differences are that women have a more difficult road to travel when it comes to orgasms. It doesn’t mean they are any less capable of reaching an orgasm; it just means that it typically takes a little more effort and education.

2 Emotional Reasons

One thing I’ve heard women tell me about men is that they believe men can “get off” with anyone and at any time. This is generally in the form of a complaint because the women feel they are not able to reach orgasm that readily.

While it isn’t true that men can reach orgasm at the drop of a hat, men usually do not have as much difficulty with orgasms as women do. A man can meet a strange woman in a bar, take her to his car, have sex in the backseat without even learning her name, and can have an orgasm. Unless he is an exceptional lover, the woman he is with is not as likely to get the same payoff from the encounter.

The question is why is there such a difference.

The answer is fairly simple. Women are more likely to feel uncomfortable with their bodies and have a more difficult time discussing sexual issues, as a result they won’t be able to achieve an orgasm with just anyone.

It’s unfair to expect men to automatically know how to bring a woman to orgasm. Every woman’s body and mental state is different so men have to learn how to help each new partner reach orgasm in her own way. Doing that requires communication and openness: two things which require trust in a relationship.

When women do not entirely trust their partners, they are less likely to open up and discuss problems in the relationship, particularly problems in the bedroom. They sometimes fear that their partners will judge them or ridicule them because of what feels good to them. This discomfort may be elevated if they have been faking orgasms because they don’t want to hurt their partners by disclosing the truth.

Another trust-related issue is that many women hold back during sex because they are not completely comfortable with their partners or themselves. For example, if a woman thinks her thighs are too big, then she may be so fixated on what her partner thinks of them that she won’t free her mind enough to get pleasure from sex. If she feels pressured to have sex or is concerned about the fidelity of her partner, then she also may find it difficult to get into the proper mind set for an orgasm.

Remember that the most important sexual organ in the human body is the brain. If it’s not ready for sexual pleasure, then sexual pleasure will not happen.

Many people neglect use of sex toys considering them needless. However, sex toys, if used reasonably can considerably refresh intimate relationships.Sex toys vary loveplay, give new sensations and help to achieve enormous pleasure never experienced before.

Such sex toys as vibrators, dildos, love dolls and realistic vaginas relieve sufferings of those who temporarily do not have a sex partner. Use of adult toys also helps those who suffer from some disorders or physical defects and therefore are prevented from normal sex life.

Sex toys are recommended to spouses who from time to time have to be apart. They help such couples to experience erotic sensations and have orgasms being without each other, but the most important thing is that sex toys prevent married couples from adultery.

No husband or wife should mind his partner’s self-satisfaction. What is safer – adultery or self satisfaction with help of a vibrator or love doll or other sex life? Remember that sex toys help avoid sleeping around and many problems related to debauchery behavior, such as sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy.

A vibrator or a dildo (or both) is recommended to those couples where a woman has low libido and never achieves orgasm. These sex toys being in hands of a loving husband can give his wife great pleasure, especially if intercourse normally lasts no longer than for two or three minutes. This short amount of time is not enough for women to orgasm. In this case a Sex toys used during foreplay will be of great help. Vibrators and dildos are also used after intercourse if male partner ejaculated before his partner’s orgasm.

Vibrators are often used by couples where a husband is much older than his wife. It is known that aged men lack libido and cannot satisfy their young wives’ need for frequent sex life.

Sometimes spouses of the same age are not satisfied with their sex life. It is quite normal that different people have different level of libido. But what is to be done if partners love each other and the only problem which prevents them from being happy is disparity in libido? No divorce! There is a way out: a partner whose libido is higher can use a sex toys to satisfy the need for sex when another partner is not disposed to making love. Do you think that a husband or a wife had better look for satisfaction with someone else? Or torture his or her spouse by demanding frequent sex contacts? Of course, this is a bad idea. Use of sex toys is much better and safer.

Everything said above does not mean that devices designed for erotic stimulation and satisfaction can completely replace intimate relationships. Do not use them instead of having sex with your partner! Remember that sex toys can give only physical pleasure, but never emotional one!

Life is love. Love and be loved!

Sex toys are a sure way to add a little spark to any romantic relationship. However, most of them were designed primarily for solo use. Often, the only way to involve your partner is to let him or her watch, or maybe help. But if you want a sex toy that is truly made for sharing, try a vibrating erection ring. Made to be enjoyed by both parties simultaneously, vibrating erection ring is the perfect couple’s sex toy.

For males, an erection ring is meant to restrict the flow of blood away from the erect penis and trap the blood in the shaft. This not only creates a pleasurable feeling of tightness and pressure, but gives him a firmer erection that will last a longer period of time.

That alone is an asset to both parties; however, the advantages of this amazing sex toy go further. There is a vibrating bullet for added extra clitoral stimulation for the woman, so it’s a true win-win situation for everyone involved.

Vibrating erection rings come in a variety of materials, like Cyberskin to give a soft, realistic feel; silicone that is hypoallergenic and easy to clean; hard and soft jelly providing different levels of flexibility and softness.

There are a number of other features to take into consideration when choosing the sex toy.

• For continuous, hands-free vibration go for a ring with an internal vibrating bullet. There is an alternative of a removable bullet that can be used on other body parts.

• For even more staying power, try a sex toy that features a double ring. Double rings have two straps: one that goes around the base of the penis and another that goes around the scrotum. In fact, such a sex toy combines two erection rings in one!

• There are choices for multi-speed erection rings or something more, like multiple levels of pulsation and vibration.

• You can also choose between pin-point vibrations, or complete clitoral coverage.

To get the most out of your new sex toy, be sure to keep the following tips in mind:

• Always use an adequate amount of lubrication with any sex toy it can make intercourse a lot more pleasurable, too. In case with vibrating erection rings, lube makes the ring easier to put on and take off and it makes the sex better as well!

• When using a condom with your erection ring, put the condom on first and then the ring second. Do not try to wear your condom over the erection ring.

• Hard jelly rings don’t generally stretch much; therefore they should be put on before you are fully erect. Many people find they are worth it, though, because the harder materials transmit vibrations better than soft jelly.

• If your sex toy is made of a soft and flexible material, you can put on your erection ring either before or after you are erect, even in cases where the opening looks quite small. These sex toys are made to stretch and are meant to fit fairly snugly.

• For more intense vibrations for the woman, try a female-dominant position. This will allow her to use her own body weight to control how hard the vibrator pushes against her.

• If the man finds that the ring makes it difficult to ejaculate, he might want to remove it prior to orgasm.

• If the sex toy becomes too snug, remove it immediately, and never leave it on for more than a half-hour at a time.

• In the rare case you might find it difficult to remove your ring. Apply ice or cold water to the penis to help reduce your erection.

• When removing the ring, take it slow otherwise your sex toy might accidentally take some pubic hairs with it.

All the given information shouldn’t intimidate you, though vibrating erection rings are absolutely amazing yet simple sex toys! And considering how much fun they are to share, every couple should have one in their bedside table.

Medical effects of too much sex

Is it well documented that too much sex (e.g. overdose of pornogaphy/masturbation or sex with a high frequency) can cause an overdose of brain pleasure chemicals and affect normal brain function? For instance is this more or less parallel to what happens in drug addiction?

Is this an argument against (too much) pornography? Yes.

The poor afflicted creatures are called ‘teenage boys’.

The results speak for themselves.

But then, to a teenage boy, even linoleum counts as pornography.  Anything that involves a lot of endorphins can become addictive.

“Too much” sex can also result in reduced sex drive and sore “parts” as well, but that’s kinda obvious. sex is good for the prostate gland. When you’re older, you should be having sex quite frequently. If not, your wife is trying to kill you. Overdose of everything is detrimental. The Pleasure mechanism is based on the chemicals called neurotransmitters and the sensitivity of their respective receptors.

Usually in orgasmic pleasure response, The neuro transmitter called Dopamine is involved. Also other chemicals involved are Oxytocin and Vasopresin. These chemicals usually stimulate the pleasure response in the emotional part of brain or lymbic system. Also the memory links are created due to the effect of these chemicals on the cells called Astro-cytes, which guide the axon to form a new link. As we all know the memory functions on the basis of neuronal linkages.

The Threshold of stimulation is one of the important facet of every biological pathway. There are always positive and negative feedback mechanisms involved in controlling almost every bio-chemical process going on in the body.

Thus Over-sex causes extra stimulation of this pathway and increases the threshold level rquired for the stimulation of that pathway. that is, If level ‘ X ‘ stimulus is required for the stimulation of pleasure pathway OR pleasure cascade in brain in terms of sex, then that level increases to ‘ Y ‘, which is usually higher than ‘ X ‘.

Secondly, the negative feedback of the brain, especially, hypothalamus-pituitary-penis pathway is affected.
In normal circumstances, the sexual stimulus causes the hypothalamus to secrete Vasopressin which causes the blood vessels in penis to first relax and then contract, thus trapping the blood in the penile tissue, making it erect. After certain level of mechanical movements, this stimulation reaches to a certain level which in-turn causes hypothalamus to secrete oxytocin. It causes the feeling of Orgasm and cause the smooth muscles in testes and penis to contract rhythematically. At the same time, the neurotransmitter called Dopamine is released in the brain’s lymbic system area.
All these chemicals working together in harmony and right order result in experiencing of Orgasm.

Over stimulation of this pathway causes temporary decrease in sensitivity of sexual stimulus. It is evident in Males with the lapse period after ejaculation.
This is one of the mechanism which is affected by too much of sex. The period of latency increases.

Thirdly, too much of Sperms are wasted. One sperm takes about 72 days to mature. Of course there are billions of them. But according to Ayurveda, The sperms are related to eyesight. Too much of sperm wastage MAY affect the eyesight in long run.

Dunno about overdose of pornography. It is strictly emotional. Unless it is accompanied by vigorous masturbation, with very high frequency, these effects cannot be noticed.

Sex is good for prostrate glands. But Not too much of it.

Also, it may decrease the sex drive of an individual. Quote: Originally Posted by Jesse Are you saying this is a permanent effect, or just a short-term effect of too much sex in a given time period? If you’re claiming it’s permanent, are you basing that on any studies? Again, are you saying this is long-term or short-term, and if you’re saying it’s long-term, what is the evidence for this? It is easy to find the reference for these pathways. Refer to any Physiology book. I like Guyton’s physiology.

The effects that I described in my post are of course temporary. However, I feel that the cumulative effect of these temporary effects adding up may result in long term implications. The body returns to its normal activity after some time of latency. However this latency period increases with time.

The second reason is purely psychological. Mind does get bored when any activity becomes a routine activity. A person who has too much of sex, it becomes a mechanical act for him. Hence the inclination to do that decreases with time. Mind is linked with brain. The decrease in sex drive is of course related to brain.

Quote: Originally Posted by Jesse Ayurveda is an “ancient Indian system of holistic health”–have any modern scientific studies suggested a link between “sperm wastage” and poor eyesight? Are you saying “too much” sex can be bad for the prostrate gland, or just that the beneficial effect levels off at a certain point? Ayurveda is a holistic approach of medicine. Instead of treating a specific cell, it treats entire body. Because according to Ayurveda, other parts of body cannot remain un-affected due to disease in one part. Hence it emphasizes on treating whole body.The basic emphasis is given on Balance of everything.

Quote: Originally Posted by emphryio I also know that for a man, ejaculation causes a rise in testosterone in the short term. But it depletes the body of zinc. An average ejaculate has about 5 calories/1 gram of protein.
Personally I’ve found that what Bundini Brown said was true (he was one of Ali’s trainers) to get an erection and not ejaculate can increase physical strength. How much it does so, depends at least on the body part. Hamstrings/gluts are greatly affected, personally, vertical leap can increase up to 6 inches with repeated stimulation without ejaculation over the course of a week or so. Deadlift can improve by 35%. (Went from 395 to 485) Finally ejaculated and then couldn’t do 405.
The idea of abstaining for men to improve physical activity only works if the man is still getting erections. Furthermore there is a delayed effect. You can have sex the night before the big game. It’s the next day that the body will have a marked decrease performance. Also the fluctuation in strength can vary for different body parts, and surely does for different people also. I agree with that. The pleasure is accompanied by sudden relaxation of muscles. To attain this sudden relaxation, it is essential that the body must be primed to extreme work and stress. Everybody who has had sex will agree that there is tremendous stress involved before reaching climax.

This stress consumes a lot of energy. Of course it is essential to maintain the good mindset. But over-sucking of energy is detrimental.

The effect on mind are quite different from the effect on body. After a healthy sex, a person feels fresh and relaxed. He finds the mind at peace. I have no idea that what are effects of over sex on health of mind. The only thing that strikes me is decrease in sex drive due to the mechanical nature of the act.

Quote: Originally Posted by premjan Is it well documented that too much sex (e.g. overdose of pornogaphy/masturbation or sex with a high frequency) can cause an overdose of brain pleasure chemicals and affect normal brain function? For instance is this more or less parallel to what happens in drug addiction?

Is this an argument against (too much) pornography? It would be an arguement if there were any real case presented.

Its a problem of people not understanding cause and effect. They see someone with a “sex addition” who had lots of sex, and assume that the sex is the cause, in spite of any scientific evidence!

A true “sex addict” is simply suffering from a specific Obsessive Compulsive disorder. OCD can take many forms. The common thread is that the need to do something is uncontrollable. The need will overcome any social or potential injury, the need becomes an imperative. When acted on the result is often described as intense near orgasmic relief. Probably the best account I can refer you to is an article written by David Sedairis about his compulsions from childhood through college. Anyway, this type of compulsion is the same regardless of if your brain is telling you to lick the light switch, spin 23 times, or masturbate compulsively. There are also varying degrees to the disorder ranging from debilitating to a minor annoyance (Ratey’s Shadow Syndromes is a great read).

Now, what are some causes? In children at least it has been shown that some forms of OCD are autoimmune problems associated with sub-clinical Step infections. The antibodies the body produces against the bacteria cross react with some proteins in the nervous system. a common treatment for children with OCD is a a throat culture and course of antibiotics. In adults it has to do more with GABAnergic systems rather than the dopamanergic systems involved in addiction. With sexual desire you can also have a hormonal imbalance.

I don’t know of any credible study linking having frequent sex with becoming a “sex addict”. However because of cultural views when sexual activity is involved people make up all kinds of entertaining things.

In fact many studies show the exact opposite. Take a look at any psychological studies on women involves in the sex industry. many of which are addicted to other substances. You would think that they would be the most susceptible. But the end result is generally sexual burnout and reduction of libido.

Anyway, here are the real things you need to worry about with sex and masturbation (in excess).

1. STDs. Even if in a regular monogamous relationship. Turns out that nearly 30% of reported cases of STDs in men may actually be caused by bacteria that is natural in some women’s mouths (medline iirc has a write up on the article). Very low chance of getting the infection, but can happen to anyone.
2. Bruising, rugburns, etc. Use your imagination.
3. Blistering (if solo all the time, get some lube).
4. The very very rare very nasty stuff from accidents that involve a trip to the emergency room right away. (example, you can “break” an erect penis if bent with enough force.)

Other than that, don’t worry about it.

Contributed by: sesan sameul oyedepo, sexo4real@yahoo.com

As you know, there are hundreds of myths about the female orgasm. But, the question is: are they all true? Of course not!

Here are some of the most common myths:

Myth 1: Women take longer to reach orgasm than men.

This is a common myth which has not been supported by research. The reason people believe this is that they don’t understand the female arousal pattern. Women’s arousal patterns are much different than men’s and, as a result, they are physically prepared for intercourse later than men are.

The time from optimal arousal to orgasm is pretty much identical for both men and women. The difference is in how long it takes to reach that level of arousal. Because men often don’t know how to help their partners get to that point, it does seem to take longer. Once that’s changed, however, men find their partners reach orgasm more quickly and even have multiple orgasms in quick succession.

Myth 2: Women should only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse.

This is definitely not true but it’s a myth that has caused us to take women’s sexual needs for granted for a long time. This myth actually started with Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis, who had recognized that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile and believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms.

The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms. It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis, for example.

As a result of Freud’s determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment. All sorts of methods were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure.

Only in recent decades has society begun talking openly about the women’s right to enjoy sex and to reach orgasm in whatever manner worked for her.

Myth 3: Only women fake orgasms.

Even though this article is about female orgasms, I think it’s important for both men and women to realize that orgasms are not going to happen during every sexual encounter. About one-fifth of men admitted that they have faked an orgasm with a partner. Their reasons for faking are the same as women’s: they don’t want their partners to be disappointed.

Orgasms don’t always come easily in a partnership. Sure, when we masturbate we can probably get off every time because we know our bodies and we know what works. Our sexual partners have to learn these things over time and, most importantly, with our help.

Again, faking orgasms is not the answer for either sex. It just complicates the issue and prevents both partners from having a truly fulfilling sexual encounter.

So, bottom line: don’t believe all myths you hear or read! You can please women with the best orgasms if you understand how the female body works!

Many people have owned, seen, or thought of owning sex toys, but many couples do not explore sex toys together. Perhaps it is because many people view sex toys as dirty or something that does not need to be done within a marriage or serious relationship. Or perhaps it is simply because we have a tendency to be embarrassed about such matters. If more couples would come together and realize that sex toys and a playful attitude towards sex and their time together in the bedroom then a great deal of people would be happier with their sex lives. Sex toys can allow couples to experiment with one another and their own sexuality in new and exciting ways.

Sex toys don’t have to be looked at in a negative light like many people look at them. They aren’t dirty or even anything to be embarrassed about. Of course, the vast majority of people wouldn’t give rave reviews over a new sex toy of some sort over dinner with their family, but these toys aren’t anything that shouldn’t be enjoyed. In fact, they are produced to be enjoyed by consenting adults that have nothing to be embarrassed about! And, when couples can enjoy such things they can learn how to interact sexually in new and exciting ways.

It’s a great idea for couples to talk about sex and sex toys as soon as they begin a sexual relationship. The longer you wait to talk about such matters, the more awkward it will become. Even if you’ve never owned any sex toys in the past, you should be able to express your desire to go shopping for some toys that will accentuate your already steamy sex life. Going shopping for the first time can be a little awkward, but that is why the couple should decide to share all of their feelings while shopping! They should be able to express what they like, what they find interesting, and what they think is absolutely disgusting. Just the sex toy shopping experience can bring a couple closer together because they’ll learn new things about one another.

There are a lot places to buy sex toys, but buying them online is a great idea if one or both people are feeling a bit nervous about it. Buying online will allow you to see full color, vivid pictures of all of the sex toys you could ever imagine without actually stepping foot in an adult store! When you order sex toys online everyone can get what they want and it will arrive at your front door within a matter of days so that the play can begin! Some toys you’ll find that you really enjoy as a couple while others you can simply play or not play with.

Couples may find that they only pull out their sex toys once a month, but it’s the knowledge that there are always new and fun ways to please one another that makes sex toys so much fun. Whether you plan to play with them all of the time or every once and again, sex toys can be a very good thing for couples that have just begun and those that have been together for quite some time.

Proper etiquette for masturbating in public is not quite what you’d think. Half of doing it is being so very jumpy and paranoid that you aren’t going to get caught because you’re stopping every time someone comes within 10 paces, and the other half comes from being charismatic in the event you are caught.

The trick to not getting caught is to try standing someplace out of sight, or at least where half of you is hidden. Once you have this it’s only a matter of how long it takes you personally to finish. A good point to bring up is what you’ll actually be doing with your finished product, but to each his own. The three options are: tissue, letting it go wherever, and eating it. Again, do whatever you feel you should, personal preference taking priority here.

As for the charisma, there are a few ways you can chalk it up. You can lie about whatever you’re doing; you can be honest and go for shock factor. It’s actually a matter of how well you reacted to being found out. If you’re caught with your dick in your hand it’s over man. If, however, you’re merely caught with a flushed face and heavy breaths claim some sort of illness. Either way, getting away as quickly as possible is the best idea from this point.

All in all, masturbation in public is a terrible idea. I’m honestly saying you shouldn’t do it. In fact, if the urge strikes you so badly, the only place proper for such an act is the bathroom, stall preferred. Its one thing to have sex in public, where it’s frowned upon but not creepy, but masturbation in public is just downright nasty. Keep things clean, bro.

Though, the idea of impromptu masturbation can make for some amusing situations for everyone but you. Imagine walking in on your college professor with his dick in his hand and a cucumber up his ass. Hilarity ensues.

Imagine yourself, one day, early in the morning, going through the day-to-day procedures meant to freshen you up and to generate a better-looking version of yourself. Not just washing your face up and brushing your teeth, but also going through the sophisticated cosmetic formulas which only the modern woman can handle skillfully applying foundation, blush, mascara, darkening your eyebrows with an eyebrow pencil, putting on some lipstick, nail polish. This has become an automatic set of morning practices, hasn’t it?

And while facing the mirror, you cannot avoid taking looks at yourself and wondering if there is anything missing in your life. Do you really collect the maximum degree of satisfaction a woman can get? Unavoidably, your thoughts can slide to the amount of pleasure you extract from your sex life. You then probably wonder if you haven’t heard your close friends talk about certain incentives to spice up their sensual experiences. You probably did and you also probably heard them mention terms like “female sex toys” and “vibrators“. Or maybe you’ve even used such female sex toys and now recollect the singular stimulating moments you enjoyed which made you feel that, while using vibrators and other sorts of female sex toys, you actually shook off the repetitive, almost standard sexual schedule in your life. It’s this schedule that female sex toys help you evade from. No active, full of life, energetic woman wants to be submitted to a “to-do” list when sex comes up.

Female sex toys come in an ample array, stimulating both the vagina and the clitoris, and even the anus. Yes ladies, for those of you who are no more than novices in the domain, there are female sex toys specifically designed for firing up nerves in the anus. There are vibrators which can arouse both your clitoris and vagina those called rabbit vibrators bringing about pleasure at a double intensity. Rabbit vibrators function like many other female sex toys on batteries. To what concerns the latter component of such vibrators, a woman should be careful about it, since it is necessary to remove the batteries after the vibrators have successfully done their job if you want a longer life-span for your vibrators. Indeed, as you have noticed, we are talking about more than just one vibrator. Why stop at a single item from the abundant collection of female sex toys? Variety never harmed anyone. And especially here, variety is a good piece of advice, because, in the end, you request the assistance of vibrators precisely for the sake of diversity. Battery-functioning vibrators are reliable portable devices, easy to carry anywhere. However, in the privacy of your home, you can use electric female sex toys, just in case. You never know when you may run out of batteries and surely you do not want to be interrupted in the middle of a promising satisfying vibrating session.

And there are even more shapes and sizes to female sex toys. There are water-resistant vibrators, which will turn your bathing episodes into delightful events. Female sex toys carry the sexual experience on peaks never reached before in such circumstances as your own bathtub. Of course, you can enjoy the assistance of female sex toys in the company of or without male attendance. Why not bring your boyfriend in? There is nothing to shy away from: purchasing and employing vibrators within a couple will actually enhance your sexual experiences. A man will most likely prove quite eager in witnessing an occasion where his girlfriend or wife brings on her own some change in her sexual manners and enough arousing reasons speed up their influence on a man while a woman displays in front of him the picture of what she is ready to do with certain female sex toys.

Whether you prefer them rigid or flexible, shorter or longer, vibrators can guarantee the attaining of the desired amount of pleasure and in some cases more than what you can imagine. However, if you are a beginner, do not jump at the really big vibrators available. For starters, you can let your sight slide over the impressive lengths like 35-40 centimeters, and try a more common length like 18-20 centimeters, just to get you a first impression on the pulsations vibrators can create. Of course, should you feel confident enough, there is nothing stopping you from opting for the truly large varieties.

Not surprisingly, vibrators are not the sole female sex toys available. Sexual fun increases if you purchase some helpful equipment in the form of lubricants. Your own body’s fluids may lubricate you. However sex is definitely a more penetrating and more passionate experience if lubricants are applied. There are sorts of lubricants with special flavors. They will turn sex into a comfortable (since tight distressing, rough friction is avoided), breathtaking event. And they can be applied both for men and women. Your boyfriend or husband will certainly feel more relaxed while performing oral sex on you if you have added some mouthwatering flavor in the right places. The same goes for you during the same oral sessions.

One thing is certain: high-quality, arousing female sex toys are always available for your own use. The secret is to let aside inhibition for the beginners or to try new versions for the more experienced ones and you will not regret it.

Unlike what you may see in adult-rated movies, sex in real life can actually be awkward and funny. Slipping, fanny farts and sloppy wet noises are ALL part of making love. You can’t escape them. The trick is of course how to deal with these situations; how you convert the seemingly embarrassing situation into one that’s not.

The same goes with oral sex. There are booboos that might occur so it’s up to you guys to deal with it in such a way that it doesn’t completely destroy the sexual charge in the bedroom!

How to Deal with Oral Sex Blunders!

The following items are scenarios that can likely happen during oral sex. They’re not meant to discourage you and your partner with engaging in oral sex at all. They’re meant as a guide to help you guys get over potentially awkward, yet real life situations easily.

Scenario 1: Your pubic hair gets caught in her teeth. This happens more often than you think. You’re so turned on by the sexual pleasure and she’s so into what she’s doing that unwittingly, a strand of your pubic hair gets caught in her teeth… and gets yanked. Ouch!

The best way to deal with this is of course to laugh it off. Now how to get that hair out? The worst thing she can do is to make a big show out of it by sitting up and trying to get the hair out with her wide open and her fist in her mouth. Instead, she should casually – almost quietly and without drawing attention to it – take the hair out from her mouth and simply wipe the hair on the bed sheet to deal with later.

Scenario 2: Her dentures get ‘dislodged’. Actually, if HE didn’t’ notice it, SHE should simply proceed as if nothing happened. However, the problem here is that often, her instinctive reaction is of course to ‘catch’ the slipping denture with her hand, or worse, by closing her mouth. If this happens, and if she caused you pain, she should remedy the situation by slowly, lovingly licking and caressing the injured spot.

Scenario 3: She ‘accidentally’ bites you. Sometimes women get so turned on by performing fellatio that they get a tad carried away and he can feel her teeth slowly, but firmly, touching his manhood. First of all, if you feel this guys, speak up! Simply touch her hair lovingly – don’t yank because you’re in a panic – and ask her to ease up a bit. Believe me, she will understand.

The same goes if she’s using her nails, have tongue jewelry or even hand jewelry that you feel is too close for comfort. Simply speak up before the ‘accident’ occurs.

Scenario 4: You let out some ‘gas’. If women are afraid of fanny farts, men get conscious too of letting out gas especially if their women are down there performing fellatio on them. If this does occur, what do you do? Really, the best thing to do is simply pretend like it didn’t happen.

However, if what you released was not pleasant at all, then be a gentleman and stop for awhile. It’s no use for you to go out of the room as the deed was done there. However, what you can do is ask her to stop, pull her up so you guys are face-to-face and get into some deep kissing. This way, the sexual rhythm is not that shattered, yet you save her from suffering down there or worse, give her time to laugh and make fun of you.

Scenario 5: She gags. Some women can be too adventurous and try to bring their man’s manhood all inside her mouth. The problem is, if her mouth really can’t accommodate him, she’ll experience what most people call a ‘gag reflex’ and this is not pleasant – for you and her. The best thing to do is for her to pause as proceeding might only push her to gag further.
However, this does not mean she should stop stimulation of your manhood altogether. She can simply take you out of her mouth and use her hand for a while to stimulate you while she catches her breath.
In the end, a good sense of humor is all it takes to get over these oral sex booboos. The more you focus on them, and the longer you focus on them, the bigger the blunder gets and the more awkward the situation becomes. Don’t let this happen as this may become a deterrent in engaging in oral sex in the future.
Have a laugh, jot it down as experience, and move on!