Cunnilingus has the potential to give women immense satisfaction and highly satisfying orgasms if performed correctly.

Many women actually find that they can climax easier from Cunnilingus than full sexual intercourse.

To learn how to perform cunnilingus takes some practice, but anyone can become skilled in the art of oral satisfaction and we have outlined some tips below to help.

Oral Techniques…..

Starting oral sex

To commence cunnilingus try the following:

Lick your partner’s vaginal entrance up her clitoris.

Then follow the outer edges of the vagina.

Make sure you cover both sides.

Going up and down each side this is a great way to start oral sex and get your partner relaxed for further pleasure.

The Labial

Hold the two parts together and make sure you do this gently with your lips.

Next run your tongue between the inner and outer labia, one side at a time and then repeat this motion.

Inside the vagina – Tongue intercourse

The majority of nerve endings in the vagina are located at the opening and this sensitivity extends a couple of inches inside.

When performing cunnilingus target these areas.

Insert your tongue into the vagina.

Probe with your tongue then try licking with circular motions and try flicks with your tongue as well.

Spread the outer vaginal lips gently apart with your fingers.

With your tongue stiff and pointed try licking and flicking the tongue across your partners clitoris and also

insert it into the vagina.

A word of caution

Go gently with the above.

Many women can be very sensitive and you should ask for direction about how hard you go when doing this.

Sucking

Expose the clitoris by spreading her lips and next expose the hood.

Take the clitoris in your mouth gently and suck it.

Let the clitoris go and then repeat again.

This is a huge turn on for most women and also adds the element of frustration to highlight the pleasure.

The A – B – C Technique

Spell the alphabet when performing cunnilingus with your tongue.

This gives the tongue a variety of directions that it can go in and this variety can be a huge turn on.

You don’t just use A – B – C use all the letters and ask which ones she finds the most exciting and keep them in mind for next time.

The exact technique for giving pleasure with cunnilingus will vary from woman to woman and the above is just a blueprint for you to use and explore with your partner

The key to finding exactly what your partner wants form cunnilingus is to communicate with her – Ask her what she wants, how she likes it and what is giving her pleasure.

Other points to keep in mind to make cunnilingus more satisfying for your partner are:

1. Make sure your mouth is moist

Fill your own mouth with as much saliva as you can, so that it is as moist as possible – Never use a dry tongue.

2. Don’t go for the clitoris straightaway.

Make sure your partner is relaxed and aroused.

Try kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva area after some general foreplay and then work your way slowly to the clitoris.

3. Variety is the key.

If you repeat the same technique your partner will quickly become insensitive to it.

Keep in mind variety with Cunnilingus is essential as it is in all sexual acts as it adds to the excitement and anticipation.

4. Use your fingers as well

You can use your fingers in association with cunnilingus.

Try inserting a finger or two into her vagina as your partner becomes more aroused.

Cunnilingus is one of the most satisfying sexual experiences for women and you can do it correctly and

give your partner mind blowing orgasms with a little practice and direction from your partner.

This time, we’re going to discuss a topic that’s quite ‘dear’ to me – cunnilingus. The reason it’s special to me is that it has been the reason for MANY of my most erotic and powerful orgasms!

As a sex expert and consultant, I can tell you that many women (and men) have so many misconceptions about cunnilingus that they stop from engaging in it altogether. What a mistake! Cunnilingus is one of the best ways a man can show his partner he cares. For us women, it’s one of the most pleasurable things we can experience sexually! As for your relationship, what better way to indicate to each other that you trust one another.

Furthermore, it’s been said that almost 75% of women do not experience an orgasm by sexual intercourse alone BUT experience it more when their clitoris is directly stimulated, often by her partner performing cunnilingus on her.  So for women, cunnilingus helps alleviate sexual frustration! As for men, gone are the feelings of inadequacy that you can’t make her ‘come’.  However, sadly, cunnilingus is surrounded by many ‘myths’ that prevent couples from engaging in them. For instance, one of my female clients said that every time she hears the word cunnilingus she thinks of fungi or bacteria.  Unfortunately, she shares this thought with her partner way too often so in the end, he too got uninterested in performing cunnilingus on her!

So for my succeeding articles, I will show you just how pleasurable cunnilingus can be and how it can help rev up your sexual life. Before I’m done, you’ll be wanting to smack your head as to why you waited this long to try it!

Cunnilingus 101

Cunnilingus is the practice of performing oral sex using one’s mouth, lips and tongue. Its purpose is to sexually stimulate female genitalia. By that definition, the goal of cunnilingus is not to bring about orgasm but MANY women claim – including me! – that it’s one of the most effective ways to achieve one!  Cunnilingus came from the Latin words cunnus, which means vulva, and lingua, which means tongue. In today’s more ‘open and modern’ culture, it’s often referred to as getting down on her, eating her, muff diving, and so on.

Although it’s not really a ‘forbidden’ topic anymore, it used to be! In fact, the act was even once considered ‘immoral’ in Western society. Contradicting this belief is the Chinese Taoism belief pertaining to endurance (long life).  According to Taoism, loss of bodily fluids means loss of energy. Does this sound contradicting? Not at all when you consider this: Taoism believes that by taking in the vaginal fluids of your partner you can increase your own vitality.  Tantric sex text (Indian culture) also touts taking in bodily fluids as a form of attaining a ‘higher’ sense of self.

Dealing with Unfounded Fears about Cunnilingus

Many men (and women partners) fall under the misconception that cunnilingus is simply a matter of licking a woman’s clit. Don’t forget that just like ANY human sexual behavior, techniques applied and responses differ from person to person, and relationship to relationship. Take my client Judy (real name withheld for privacy) for example.

Judy’s first experience of cunnilingus was not good at all, affecting succeeding ‘explorations’ of this oral sex technique. Her boyfriend – we’ll just call him John – was a bit rough on her while he was eating her out and she didn’t find it pleasurable at all. To make matters worse, he gave a comment that she sort of smelled funny down there, which obviously freaked – and emotionally and sexually – scarred Judy for a long time.

In her succeeding relationships, she refused cunnilingus outright but in a night of heated passion with someone, he went down on her before she could stop him and she was so distraught that she just couldn’t let go of her inhibitions and radiate in the sexual pleasure. Needless to say, she didn’t come and her partner, a truly nice guy, started to think the problem was him!  Luckily, Judy was able to address this unfounded fear of cunnilingus just in time, enabling her to keep her man AND finally experience an orgasm she has never felt before! You can safely bet that Judy simply adores cunnilingus and, according to her, she can’t have enough of it!

So shouldn’t you be going down on your partner tonight and try to pleasure her with one of the best sexual ways possible?

Is your woman a cunnilingus virgin? Lucky you, it’s your sexual duty to initiate her in the erotic joys of cunnilingus!
This may come as a surprise to you but not all women come with full knowledge and acceptance of cunnilingus or ‘being eaten out’. From a woman’s point of view, oral sex is often a matter of trust, i.e., opening up her most ’scared place’ for ‘close scrutiny’ to you. In fact, believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there who are more open to sexual intercourse than cunnilingus. They claim that the latter is a more ‘private affair’. I know, go figure.
If your partner is a cunnilingus virgin, don’t lose hope end assume she’s deadest against it. For all you know, she’s simply waiting for the right guy to show her the high sexual pleasure that cunnilingus brings.
How to Persuade Your Partner to Engage in Cunnilingus
Discuss, not dictate. The wrong approach to take is to STATE that she ‘needs’ to experience cunnilingus. For one, you probably don’t even know why she’s not into being eaten yet so don’t assume anything. Instead, talk to her about it. Ask if she has any negative impressions or bad experiences regarding cunnilingus so that you’re better able to address whatever it is that’s eating her up (pun intended).
Also, showing that you’re willing to discuss and understand her shows your caring side, which in turn makes her trust you more, which in turn makes her more open to the thought of you going down on her.
Try, not force. As a cunnilingus virgin, it’s understandable that she may be a bit squeamish about the whole affair the first time. Don’t expect compete and wild abandon here. And don’t force her to feel great about it either by ramming your tongue deeper into her or propelling it like helicopter blades. You might hurt her, making her think cunnilingus is not pleasurable at all!
Also, don’t be offended by immediate reaction she has. For example, here’s a story from one of my clients, let’s just call him Jack.
So Jack was eating his lady out. Since she was new to cunnilingus, her emotions about all the new sexual feelings where everywhere. Her physical response to this was to bring her thighs tightly together; that’s right, squeezing Jack’s head between her legs! Anyway, Jack understood this so he GENTLY pried her legs apart and licked gentler to make her relax.
Can you imagine if, feeling a bit of pain, Jack drastically pulled his head away? That would rudely abruptly her sexual pleasure and might even make her think he doesn’t like eating her out after all.
Explore, not just apply. Although she may be a cunnilingus virgin, it doesn’t mean that techniques that worked for your previous partners will work on her. For one, some women, like it rough, others don’t. Some women like being finger fucked while being licked, others don’t. And so on.
So for her first time, just be gentle and go with the flow. Be attuned with her body and its reactions instead of trying to apply – what you think – is a great cunnilingus formula.
Encourage trust, not misgiving. Again, since this is her first time with cunnilingus, it’s important to start gently so that you earn her trust. If you go down there like Rambo, and chances are she’s not ready for that at all, she will instinctively assume that she’ll experience some sort of pain or discomfort. As a result, she will not be completely open to the whole cunnilingus thing anymore.
Also, at the very least, she may not feel much sexual pleasure at all, enabling her to incorrectly assume that cunnilingus is no big deal.
Make it all about HER pleasure. Try not to be the great Casanova as you go down on her or revel in the fact that you’re her sexual teacher, and she your helpless sex student who wants nothing more than to accept your moves.
Sometimes, men can get so full in their heads about how they’re such great lovers that the focus is all wrong. So this time, make it all about her. Her body, her reactions, her sexual pleasure. If she achieves an orgasm during cunnilingus, GREAT but it’s not your goal.
Your goal is to simply let her know how sexually enriching cunnilingus is and that it’s another way you can enrich your relationship – sexually and otherwise. Good luck!