The Inner Sexual Fairy Awakes and Speaks

Just like everything else, everyone has their own preferences and reasons for doing something. Have you ever experienced a time when you’re suddenly hit with a desire or some desires that just baffle you deep? That’s your “inner sexual fairy” trying to knock senses of curiosity at you – making you explore your sexuality. When it does, do you tuck it away in your dark dungeon and lock it up or do you embrace it and fulfill that curiosity? How desirable are they or how absurd are they would depend on your comfort zone and your boundaries.

Exploring One’s Sexuality is Not Something Dirty

It is getting to know yourself and your desires. Once fulfilled – you may like it or you may not – the least is that you would know what works and don’t for you that give you the utmost pleasure. I am not talking about people who are pedophiles, rapist or people who do other unlawful and inhumane acts to unwilling individuals by force and possibly hurting them. I’m referring to consenting adults that allow each other to help each other to fulfill their sexual fantasies – from nothing to shout about fantasies to extreme fetishes – whatever that tickles their curious buds.

Everyone Has Different Perceptions, Needs and Comfort Zones

What works for one that sounds interesting to you doesn’t always mean that it would be your thing. Take your time to understand your desires and learn about them. Give yourself time to bond with the “fantasy fairy” and let the fairy guide you to your sexuality that makes you whole. You will have to explore to know with a like-minded partner. To act on that curiosity or not – it is entirely up to you – you can choose to give in and know for sure or hold back and never know at all and cringe. I personally feel that killing that curiosity if it’s beyond our comfort zone is something to be embraced as if you don’t; you will always “wonder” and possibly regret or give yourself a hard time for not having the guts to try. Don’t push your limits too fast, nudge it.

If you choose to try something extreme to you beyond your comfort zone, you can try doing some research on it, talk to people who do or might have done that before to prepare yourself for that experience. You can go at it step by step – extending your comfort zone a little at a time till you reach your limit – the border line. If you need to back out at any time, do it – don’t let your ego or anyone coax you to do otherwise. Be true to yourself; respect yourself and your body. Of course there are times those things just happens – you’re just ready to go. When the student is ready, the “guru and the experience” will appear – intentional or not. Curiosity is one thing; trust is very important when exploring. Explore with someone you can trust that would respect your boundaries.

Let’s Look at Some Sexual Fantasies

Fetishes. Lesbianism, gayism, 3-some, orgy, bondage, cross-dress, S&M, fisting, rimming, voyeurism, domination, etc are yesterday’s news. There are so many sexual terms for them it’s hard to keep up. They are pretty common these days for many open and daring individuals – nothing to shout about – at least for the people who seek more than the usual conventional sexual practice. Some of the more extreme fetishes that I find intriguing – what goes through the minds of these people – yet appalled by some of them are golden showers, playing with faeces or vomit, have sex with full-on blow-up dolls, animals, fake pussies and the list goes on. What we find appalling; to others they are heaven. Respect your friends’ boundaries and never force them to see eye to eye with you on your fetishes – they may wish to explore it one day or perhaps never – they are the judge for when it should happen for them; NOT you unless you are prepared to lose your friendship if you don’t stop the hard sell.

How Do You Share Your Fantasies or Fetishes With Your Partner

This could be tricky and difficult at times. Communication and timing are important. Not everyone can be ready at the drop of a hat. Patience, understanding and respect are all crucial. Doing the hard sell may work for some, but for most that are more introvert you may have to be patient and use the softer approach – you may opt for some adult board games that cover from the norm to some popular fetishes that you could play with your partner – the fun and less intimidating way or even taking them to some fetish clubs to get the “exposure” with no expectations.

It’s important to allow your introverted partner time to explore at his/her own pace, to think and decide, provide him/her with literature, accept and respect his/her limitations. Above all, be prepared for the consequences that may follow if you plan to be out with it. Not everybody can be accepting and be understanding. They have to fight their own fears within in order to come out a champion and able to embrace the concept if they ever do.

There are many resources online for those who wish to explore and forums where you can discuss your concerns or simply to just ask for advice. As always, protect yourself from STDs. If your fantasy involves other people and your partner, it is wise to know the background of those “outsiders” or get the proof of a medical check-up or blood test report for STDs. Of course, it’s impossible to stay clear 100% from those nasty diseases, but you can minimize your risks.

Whatever may be your thing, let your inner sexual fairy speak to you and awaken your sexuality within. What is your thing? Do you know?

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One Response to “The Inner Sexual Fairy Awakes and Speaks”

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